beba27fl
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Reged: 07/08/08
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I got divorce when I was pregnant,he enroll in the military 1 week before the baby was born,my son is 5 years old now and his father only came to see him when he was 5 months old for like 10 minutes and we had never see him again (he got married again and his wife hates me),in the divorce paper we agree in child support wich he stop paying like a year after the divorce,can I ask for full custody I just don't think is fair for my son if he comes back after 5 years and try to be in his life like nothing hapend.
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theanswerguy
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Reged: 04/12/07
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You can ask for full custody but it doesn't mean that it will be awarded , a judge could still order joint . Either way , he WILL get court ordered visitation that you will be expected to abide by as he will be expected to provide support .
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mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
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Loc: Florida
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I think you are confusing full custody with no visitation...he can come back after any amount of time and ask for visitation regardless if you have full custody or joint custody. What you will want to do at that time is to ask for supervised visitation 'til he and child gets to know one another.
As far as child support goes, that's a seperate issue and one that should be addressed. Get things moving on collecting the support he owes and understand that he should pay for the years that he didn't, those are arrearages if you have a court order.
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momma5
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Reged: 07/25/08
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the only way to keep him out of your child's life is to remarry and ask him to sign a release of parental rights for adoption. unfortunately, that's a terrible reason to marry someone. another unfortunate thing is that this is what men do. the selfishness extends beyond a mother's realm of understanding. when they feel they want to "see my kid" after months or years we don't have the right to act in the best interest of the child we've been raising w/out his help, without having to file SOMETHING with the court. i know that doesn't help, but maybe you can contact your family law division at your local courthouse.
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Samsung
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Reged: 06/14/07
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"another unfortunate thing is that this is what men do."
Is this in a undiscoverd gene, or just the guys you've chosen in your life?
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momma5
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[quote]"another unfortunate thing is that this is what men do."
Is this in a undiscoverd gene, or just the guys you've chosen in your life? [/quote]
Statistics don't lie, and you're right, it has also been the result of poor choices. I'm not a man hater, I just think it's rediculous what a man will allow of his behavior. After not seeing a child for years, either he won't sign over the rights of a child because he thinks it's a battle with the mother; or, he pops back into the child's life briefly, just for his own personal gratification, so he can say how much he "loves that kid". If you are not one of these guys, which I'd like to think that most every guy on here isn't (otherwise, why would you even be interested in this type of forum), then kudos to you. But if you are, apparently you're my type. How you doin?
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