mistake#2
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E called her dad tonight, she hasn't talked to him for about 6 weeks as the last time he called was 2-3 weeks ago and he only spoke to our son for 10 minutes at that time. She was excited cause she got her permit and then she was angry because he hadn't bothered to call her in so long, so she was calling because of both.
He told her he had no excuse.
Then he gave her trivial ones...his nice phone isn't working, so he has to talk on the cheap $40 one...things aren't going well at work and people are being laid off...
Then he states something that has me going "hmmmm", he said that he has stuff going on that he can't talk to her about but that he is depressed. He goes on to discuss that he is only going to see them one time per year and blames me for offering only one week this summer supervised. The stupid thing is that the other court ordered visitation would give him 3 additional visits, so why is he only going to see the kids one time per year?
I have to wonder what it is that he can't mention to our daughter...did he get caught growing weed, possessing it, or get drug tested at work and fail? That would be my first guess based on his lack of trying to get any visitation via court this summer and the mentioning of work not going well while speaking of bringing his attorney to work too, which didn't make any sense to my daughter.
I want to call him and just ask "so are you going to take any visitation time this summer based on the terms I offered or not?"
I don't know if MI has a website for recent arrests?
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getitoverwith
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Look into it. It seems there is something keeping him. Some of these current arrests are for public viewing.
Money might be an issue or maybe getting busted.
If drugs are around.... your child shouldn't be around him. Just call and ask... say something like... I'm looking into getting the kids into this camp and I'm wondering when you'd be taking your vacation with them that way I can plan around your time. Really easy. And remember people love to talk.... if he doesn't come out with it... just ask if everything is alright.
Good luck to you. (~_^)
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ronis108
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[quote] Just call and ask... say something like... I'm looking into getting the kids into this camp and I'm wondering when you'd be taking your vacation with them that way I can plan around your time. Really easy. And remember people love to talk.... if he doesn't come out with it... just ask if everything is alright.
Good luck to you. (~_^) [/quote]
That sounds like a good way of putting it. "so are you going to take any visitation time this summer based on the terms I offered or not?" Sounds a bit controlling....OK I admit I have stuff about that...Hmmm I wonder why. :-)
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getitoverwith
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Yup it took me a while to get there. The first year he didn't want to take them for summer visit. And I was so upset over all the stuff he was doing to me.... (taking picturs, following me around, talking about me as if I were the list goes on and on...)I just told him the kids would be ready July 1st for pick up. He said he would check his schedule. And I said I'm dropping them of at your work or home ... wherever you are, if you are not here to pick them up. All of a sudden they were cramping his style and they seemed expensive. So he shipped them off to his moms house. Good thing is moms got a new bf. Ha! This year.... she only offered 2wks.
Things have a way of working out on their own.
Remember to always be the better man. And it seems to me the more I offer for him to have them-- the more he runs away. For fathers day weekend this year. I offered to give up my weekend. He said he was doing this and that....he could only pick up and return on that same day. Money issues I guess. One of the kids told me later on they ate balognia and cheese sandwiches again. And that they were tired of eating the same thing. I actually felt bad. If he only knew how far I would stretch my dollar when he walked. Things have a way of working out....and what goes around comes around.
Be patient..... I can see he's backing off.
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mistake#2
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[quote]
That sounds like a good way of putting it. "so are you going to take any visitation time this summer based on the terms I offered or not?" Sounds a bit controlling....OK I admit I have stuff about that...Hmmm I wonder why. :-) [/quote]
Yup, if you don't have the background on it, then it does sound controlling...I assumed anyone who read would know that the ex was abusive and CPS had been involved, thus my offer for supervised visitation through the courts. It was more of a thread that continuued from previous posts, I should've known better.
I couldn't find any websites that gave information on arrests in Kent County, MI...only one that would give information if someone was a current inmate, which wouldn't be the case.
Anyone know how else I can look without having to hire someone?
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Amira
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Reged: 10/08/07
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In Missouri you can go to case.net and find public records of court cases, maybe your state has something similar. I also looked up my local judicial court...16th judicial court ..and that gave me some info too. Good luck, hopefully this will help.
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