Highroad
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I posted aprevious qeustion but took it down since no one answered. My new questions is debatable. Why is it when mothers have questions regarding custody, we are seen as teh enemy from the start. I asked on another website and immediately i start being accused of wanting to deny my ds fathers of his rights, when my question did not warrant such answers. What is it that makes good mothers bad mothers just because they are the custodial parent.
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jersey girl
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Everyone answers questions with their own blinders, bias and feelings.
But, a lot of people give you their perspective because they want to make sure you see both sides of the story. As the custodial mom, we have alot more rights than a lot of dads get just because they are dad.
Weed thru the emotion and you'll find some really good perspectives.
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Highroad
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[quote]Everyone answers questions with their own blinders, bias and feelings.
But, a lot of people give you their perspective because they want to make sure you see both sides of the story. As the custodial mom, we have alot more rights than a lot of dads get just because they are dad.
Weed thru the emotion and you'll find some really good perspectives. [/quote]
that is an assumption, but the courts are now going more in the direction of equality for parents. Does the world still think that mothers have more rights than fathers?
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SwedishChef
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[quote][quote]Everyone answers questions with their own blinders, bias and feelings.
But, a lot of people give you their perspective because they want to make sure you see both sides of the story. As the custodial mom, we have alot more rights than a lot of dads get just because they are dad.
Weed thru the emotion and you'll find some really good perspectives. [/quote]
that is an assumption, but the courts are now going more in the direction of equality for parents. Does the world still think that mothers have more rights than fathers? [/quote]
Yes, it does.
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Highroad
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[quote]Yes, it does. [/quote]
how so?
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chatter box
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It has been proven that 50/50 works better for kids but how often do the courts rule in this direction. All things being equal most states like mine default to a standerd every other weekend and a few hours a week for the NCP. If all things are equal then why do weman get custody almost every time?
I would like to add that by doing the 50/50 it often increases the contact and drama that a kid is subjected to and that is in no way right. It only works if the parents get along. That is often why they states do not push more for a 50/50 custody.
Edited by chatter box (08/27/08 09:11 AM)
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Highroad
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[quote]It has been proven that 50/50 works better for kids but how often do the courts rule in this direction. All things being equal most states like mine default to a standerd every other weekend and a few hours a week for the NCP. If all things are equal then why do weman get custody almost every time?
I would like to add that by doing the 50/50 it often increases the contact and drama that a kid is subjected to and that is in no way right. It only works if the parents get along. That is often why they states do not push more for a 50/50 custody. [/quote]
So your saying 50/50 results in two much interaction between the two parents, and if the parents dont get a long, there is the risk of more "scenes" in front of the child or more fighting. wouldnt a forced 50/50 for the parents to work more together since they will need to share information for the childs care and stability?
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Samsung
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"I would like to add that by doing the 50/50 it often increases the contact and drama that a kid is subjected to and that is in no way right. It only works if the parents get along. That is often why they states do not push more for a 50/50 custody."
I respectfully disagree that this is a primary reason. I think there are a couple other reasons that are considered to be more important to government.
1) 50/50 as a rule will result in more welfare expenditures, due to a far less transfer of child suppport, thus more people will qualify.
2) There is a very powerful system in place to deal with unequal custody: all of these systems would be greatly reduced with 50/50: family law courts, child support divisions, judges, and family law attorneys. These folks would fight to their dying breath to keep these systems in place.
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chatter box
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Sam, I can't argue with any of that. I might not totally agree but the sad part is I know that there is at least some trueth to it.
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chatter box
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[quote]wouldnt a forced 50/50 for the parents to work more together since they will need to share information for the childs care and stability? [/quote] No. The courts are full of cases, including mine, where parents can't agree on anything at all. Take mine for example, I have three doctors a psychologiest and even according to my X CPS said my daughter has a problem yet I'm going back to court for the 15th time next week just so my X can stall things by requesting another medical oppinion.
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