kuntrygurl
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Reged: 08/29/08
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been separated for over a year from a very coniving snake who has figured out a way to get a temporary decision where he has our son most of the time, telling terrible lies and such.
i've tried so hard to do the right things for my son. i haven't played as dirty as his daddy, nor have I had much more than he said/she said stuff to go on. once the temporary order came down, tho, (an unexpected one at that) I started taping and video recording every moment i have with my son.
son comes back from his dad's a few days ago, and i've got the recorder going. he gets to telling me about classmates at school to out of the blue saying "daddy wants to trap you at his house because he wants to hurt you after what you've done to him."
i just keep thinkin to myself that the boy shouldn't know who did what to who, and if he's that open with me that he thinks his Daddy wants to hurt me, then what am I suposed to do with that?
should i take this and get a restraining order? his dad didn't beat me, but we did have a few rough rounds here and there ... nothing i reported to the police.
this kinda scares me..... son's daddy has friends of friends who could be classified as violent criminals...
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theanswerguy
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The smart thing to do is never allow yourself the opportunity to be victimized . That being said , the word of a child is unlikely to have any bearing .
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Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right. Isaac Asimov
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jersey girl
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Reged: 08/07/06
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In all likelihood, the judge will get angry at you for taping your child. Your ex will claim that you are coaching him.
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mamanbama81
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Reged: 09/01/08
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Ok, I am not having the same issues regarding threats or the fear there of. However, I contacted my lawyer about several issues with my ex and she told me not to ask the children anything about the other parent.If the child tells you something about the other parent, only respond with, oh ok or alright. Something to that effect. File away the comment until the child is not present and then call your attrny or get a notebook and write EVERYTHING down. The courts most likely will not take your video, most custody issues are a court of equity. That means that the judge will hear both sides and talk to the gaurdian ad litam, if there is one and then make a decision based solely on that. However there are certian situations where you may need or want some reinforcements, in that case hire someone, like a P.I. that is licensed and reconized by the court. As long as it is an uninvolved party, meaning a non-bias opinion, you should be ok. But if you take it to court, and your child is old enough, the will be asked questions by a professional. And trust me, these people know when a child has been 'coached' or not. Alwaya, always call your attrny if you are in fear of your life, you may even call the police just to make a report with out filing charges. Just so you have it in black and white. Ask your police dept, attrny, or even the court house for information about it. Thats what they are there for. Good luck.
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