kent
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Sorry -- I have been MIA for sometime. Just very busy at work, and having to deal with some financial things.
OK on topic part!!!!
--part of the crushing aspect of divorce is that certain things remind us of our exes and then become forbidden. Sometimes it is something old or something new.
What is a movie, TV show that you could not watch without sorrowful reminders, that you can watch again now?
What is a song you could not and now can?
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For me a song I had not heard when I was with my ex, brecame a forbidden song. It crushed me at a deep level ... but recently I started being able to listen to it without her corrupting it. It is a song called "Pretty Voice" by a MPLS group called Cloud Cult. A WONDERFUL song and a GREAT group.
Some movies that hit me .... weirdly were Kill Bill vol 1 and vol 2 and Fargo. My ex loved those flicks. Anytime I watched them I remembered her reactions. Over the last few months I have watched them again, and loved them again.
Sure there are still some that have impact. Maybe they always will. But I do think the list will sink.
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Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.
Dr. Seuss
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SwedishChef
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Song:
Big Blue Note - Tobey Keith
Surprisingly, this song makes me feel better with it's upbeat ending.
Movie:
Much Ado About Nothing (Kenneth Brannaugh version). I could watch it over and over.
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If he can have her, I don't want her.
I gave her the ring, now I'm giving her the finger.
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mfergel
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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I don't have that problem. Her and I hated the same kinds of music and shows/movies. I love the fact that I can now enjoy Famiy Guy without her complaining to turn that crap off. She's also come to realize most guys don't want to listen to the same crap music she does. Sorry, guys like to look at "Fergie". They don't want to hear her unless she's screaming our name.
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Damn it's good to laugh again.
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maybetexas
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Loc: Dallas
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This is interesting. It's only September and I am dreading December. The weekend after Thanksgiving, I always put up the tree and then we would sit down and watch Christmas Vacation. I have been wondering how I will ever watch it again. It was a tradition....I would beg to watch it early, but he always said "NO" we have to wait until after Thanksgiving. Not looking forward to that weekend.....but maybe by then, I will be able to watch it!
Maybetexaws
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Combating loneliness one small step at a time.
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gigi
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I used to cry at Christmas movies & songs because my first husband simply couldn't understand or enjoy them. He tried, but he couldnt' help himself... he could NOT simply enjoy the season without using every opportunity to criticize christianity.
What a RELIEF when the sweet/cute/sappy movies and songs that are associated with that time were no longer part of a deep and serious conflict between the man I loved and myself.
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dexmeister
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We liked the same music, but little common interest in movies. Now any of her favorite songs make me sick. Her personal favorite is Let Me Be Myself by 3 Doors Down. I hate that song now. Anytime I find something around my apartment that reminds me of her I destroy it. I mean agressive destruction. It may seem crazy, but I get closure when I do it. Last weekend I took my wedding ring to my chemistry lab an melted it down to nothing. Found out that it wasn't made of gold after all. I guess it was like our marriage, fake.
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I never knew what I was made of until now.
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sadpuppy
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Loc: michigan west coast
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cant stand "Lips of an angel"beautiful tune.. but the words!!
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susanna32
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The Breakup with Jennifer Aniston. Anyone see it?? My ex was just like him times 10! He was a total jerk! I think I might be able to get through it now. It's hard to say. I am way better, but still have my moments. I laughed too because the things in the movie like when Vince says something like you are such a .... and he says I didn't say you were a .... I said to stop acting like one. That was my ex!! LOL!! And my ex was so good at denying things that were so true! I can't stand him!!!! Some men are sooo stupid!
Edited by susanna32 (09/06/08 09:34 PM)
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kent
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Breakup was one of the first movies I saw after she left. It made me laugh even then!
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Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.
Dr. Seuss
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SheilaForIt
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Reged: 07/26/08
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Loc: Near a Big Salty Lake
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I'm getting to the point where I can listen to Elton John again without thinking of my stbx. I can't stomach most love songs, though. I hear one and I start to cry and feel ill.
As for movies, we didn't see eye to eye on most of them. He liked to say that I hated movies (he was/is a movie buff). I don't hate movies...I just don't like movies that suck. LOL
I think I could watch "The Full Monty" without too much pain. I had to drag Mr. Movie-Buff to see that movie when it first came out. He can't stand English movies, but he ended up liking this one.
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