HardKnox
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Loc: Wisconsin
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So I met up with this woman who responded to my POF ad. Obviously, she had a great sense of humor, real pretty, great smile, hearty laugh. I thought "this is cool, this is going pretty well". Then the questioning began.
Q: Do you really drink >3 times per week?
A: Only to excess.
Q: If it was opening day of deer hunting season, and I had tickets to the theatre, what would you do?
A: Pfffft. Go hunting, of course.
Q: Do you really want to live rural when you retire?
A: Of course. What does the urban environment have to offer me?
Q: Do you really smoke cigars?
A: Yes, daily.
Q: Do you really not have a telephone?
A: Yes, I really don't have a telephone.
Q: Then how can we yack for hours on the phone and text each other numerous times per day?
A: We can't. If there's something you need to talk about, call me at work and we'll meet up later. Talk for hours? About what? I think I speak about 50 words per day, on the average. I've never "texted" anything in my life and think the behavior is just unspeakably gay.
Q: Do you have a social network?
A: You mean other than my buddies that I hunt and fish with and hang out at the tavern with? No.
Q: Will you shave your beard off for me?
A: Not until after deer hunting season.
And it went on and on and on. And I started to get angry. WTF is so special about this woman that she feels it is OK to question me about every aspect of my existence? I mean, I understand that she needs to be careful, so we met in a public place and everything to help her determine that I'm actually NOT an ax-murderer. But I'm DONE with being questioned about my lifestyle preferences. I'm not going to answer to ANYBODY about ANYTHING anymore. So, I ended up staring at my dinner and slurping on my beer until she got up to leave. Good riddance.
Complete and utter disinterest in dating.
Not going to be treated like a child and lead around by the nose. For what? The occassional piece of ass? I can buy one of those locally for a couple hundred bucks per night. Then go outside and smoke a nice Cuban cigar and enjoy a nice glass of booze.
HK
Confirmed Lifetime Bachelor
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Sarah1014
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Don't give up on dating Hardknox. She's just not the person for you. That is obvious.
Sounds like an interview.
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HardKnox
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Reged: 06/13/07
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Loc: Wisconsin
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Don't give up on dating Hardknox.
Nah, it's hopeless, Sarah.
It's hopeless.
And really, all it did was resurrect the feelings of "being cheated" by this whole divorce process. I devoted 15 years of my life to this woman while she sat on her ass and did absolutely nothing. All the dreams we had of relocating to a home on a lake up north, all shot to hell. Now I'm assured of living out my days in poverty.
Very angry as a result of this date.
No point in EVER dating again.
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taryn
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THAT girl needs to work on her dating conversation skills!
i have conducted plenty of 'interviews' and only asked a handful of questions.
all she needed to do was get you talking and she could have found out plenty, the conversation would have been interesting and most likely you would have cracked her up half the night.
instead this chick sounds like she went through some 'list'!
i hope you fired off a few rounds of pointed questions yourself.
naahhhh...that would have been a waste of time, she obviously had some kind of agenda.
goodness!
when youre on a date it doesnt matter if someone DOESNT have a phone, cable or even lives with their Mother!
date code requires you keep an interested expression,
express intrigue what you find odd, and you dont ask questions in list form.
if you didnt already 'drink to excess' 
im sure you would have wanted to by the end of the date!
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taryn.
Edited by taryn (09/15/08 09:47 AM)
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Books29
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Yikes, HK! I'm sorry that happened to you! Well...at least you found out before the second date what's she's like. She seems like the kind of woman who would want to change something about ANY man she met. And, she certainly was not the right woman for you. Why is it her business that you smoke cigars and drink a few times a week? Jeesh! She sounds like a buzzkill if I have ever heard of one. HK, there are A LOT a women who would appreciate a man that doesn't take himself or life to seriously and likes to have fun. Don't give up because of one lousy date. Women like that give us women a bad name. As for feeling angry after your date, that is totally understandable. It's hard to get out of your comfort zone so when you try and it doesn't go well, it makes you think about what you once had and how comfortable that felt to you. It's hard work dating and trying to build a relationship with somebody but if you find the right one, it can be very rewarding. Don't give up on us!
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HardKnox
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Loc: Wisconsin
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She seems like the kind of woman who would want to change something about ANY man she met.
I really have to wonder why some women feel it is SO IMPORTANT to TAKE AWAY THE ONE THING (like deer hunting) that gives us men SO MUCH PLEASURE. This woman was SO IRRITATED by my answer to her "deer hunting versus theatre" question. Gun deer hunting season in Wisconsin is only NINE DAYS LONG. Nine days out of 365 to hunt deer with a rifle. But no, THOSE would have to be the days we HAD TO GO to the mother [censored] THEATRE.
MAN, I hate manipulative control. I HATE all the BS you have to put up with in a marriage or in a relationship.
I think my female friends were right.
Divorce HAS "ruined me".
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is it over
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OH HK, I'm sorry. I was thinking about you this weekend and hoping your date went well. I don't know why she couldnt just appreciate all you DO have to offer. Please don't let her ruin it for the lucky one who will meet and love all that you have to offer. I think it is monumental that you even put up an ad on POF and met her. Now the girl for you may not be on POF, but trust me.. she is out there.
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lairdude
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Loc: Illinois
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HK, chillax dude! This in one girl out of many that you will meet. She is/was looking for someone to change into her picture of what a mate is, most are not. You just need to take a deep breath and shake this one off, rub some dirt on it, walk it off. Did I miss any sports cliches? 
But seriously, it will get better.
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Books29
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That is extremely annoying! You don't want to be with a woman who uses that type of manipulation anyway. Maybe you found out the reason she is still single! She probably doesn't let any man she is involved with breathe!
Don't take it personally. Some women are just like this and are better off single. As for your female friends saying that divorce damaged you, it can if you let it. I think it should "change" you. It should make you less tolerant of bs like what you went through on your date. It shows you what you really want in a partner in an extremely painful way. Well...at least in my perspective, I feel that divorce has made me a stronger, better person and at least now, I know what I want in a relationship. Yes, I have some baggage, but who doesn't? Hang in there, HK. You made a big step in the right direction opening yourself up to go on a date. If you decide to reinstate your profile, put "NO CONTROLLING WOMEN" in big bold letters!
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HardKnox
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Reged: 06/13/07
Posts: 2760
Loc: Wisconsin
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I apologize for being so cranky. The whole dating thing just put me in a positively DREADFUL mood. And I shouldn't be taking it out on you people, who have become (essentially) the only friends I've GOT.
And to make matters worse, the drug store wouldn't take back the XXXXL Magnum rubbers I bought, since I obviously didn't need them.
:-o
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