fairlady
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I just found out my ex inherited Mothers home and maybe a small amount of $ . Which there was no actual will . Ex is living in Mothers home as we speak . From what I found out . Home was already paid for . So I don't think ex is paying a mortgage !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But has not yet to offer any extra care for the kids . How can I find out about the home ... If it is paid for or not ? And how does this affect C/S ? Ex does not have a car payment , low monthly bills , and only provides $400.00 a month for 2 teenagers . Well. ... ex is only paying 1/2 of court ordered c/s as ex seems to think he doesn't have to pay the other 1/2 since one child lived with him for a period of time . He still continued on paying for child still living with me . Never got c/s changed at all ! I think he will have to pay not only the current but back c/s from the past 6 mos. or so . Since it wasn't taken to the courts to have C/S modified .....
Will ex's small inheritance & and now ownership of home affect C/S ?
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gigi
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You don't get to receive any benefit from your ex's parents' generousity to him. His children could benefit if they spend more time with him, but you don't get it.
The only way this could affect your child support would be if he decided to quit his job becasue he doesnt' have to work any more because the inheritance made him flush. THEN the courts would say that they will attribute his income to be the same as his previous income because he's not allowed to voluntarily reduce his income for the purposes of child support just because HE no longer needs th eincome. The courts would say the KIDS still need the income so he couldn't reduce his support just because his family is not paying for his lifestyle.
Of course, if his mother was Ivana Trump and left billions of dollars worth of stuff, the judges' would probably try to find a way to give you some just because the celebrity and extreme nature of the situation would make them want to treat you differently. But that would not be under any theory of how the law works, it'd just becasue their general sense of fair play would not have you living hand to mouth while your ex lives off a billion dollar estate.
Think of it, if your own parents died and left you with a house and property, should he be allowed to pay you LESS support just because YOUR parents were so generous? OOOOR, if you marry a rich man as your next husband, will that mean your children's father should not pay support for them because the rich man has enough money that your ex thinks that your new husband should support your first husband's kids?
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lonely14
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Reged: 07/03/08
Posts: 88
Loc: Midwest
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I don't have an answer for your direct question,but
"....and only provides $400.00 a month "
Wow! I only get $ 70.00/ month. I would be grateful that you get that much, esp. with the economy the way it is.
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twins1
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Reged: 06/26/08
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Loc: PA
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wow - i should be very thankful!! i'm going to get $900/mo for 2 kids.
$70??? why bother?
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gigi
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Counting amounts is useless. It depends upon how much you earn, how much HE earns, how much time he has with them.
This kind of comparison makes me crazy because there are women out there (my husband's ex is one of them) who seem to think that child support should free them from having to work hard. It does not and should not. It is the payor's proportionate portion (based upon both parents having full time income) of the expenses of feeding, clothing and minimally caring for the kids... and of course since it's income based, it will also be caring for kids of YOUR PARTICULAR JOINT SOCIOECONOMIC LEVEL. Meaning that if a family of four lived off $20,000 a year when they were together and one was a stay at home, the parent who ends up with primary custody just can't expect anywhere near several hundred a month for child support. That parent will be told to go back to work and they'll be lucky if they get a little extra, above & beyond their own salary, to raise the kids on.
We've got one member of the forum who has 2 exes. One has money but was abusive, the other was a cheater, but not abusive, and is poor as a churchmouse (gets lots of his stuff from charity from his church, to tell the truth). SHE has REAL issues because she's got some kids whose father is paying enough to give them nice birthday parties, while the other kids' father sends them home for thier first day of school in clothing from goodwill (not that it's a bad thing, but if you've got two kids in teh same house and thier fathers are providing different STUFF... it's TOUGH To make up for it!)
But talk like this, ("I get $900 a month", "I get $400", "I get $90", "do you think I can take some of his inheritance?") is what makes some men think that the reason women want primary custody of the kids is all about the money. And that's what makes them very angry and wanting to give as LITTLE cash as possible... all they want is more time with thier kids and they hear talk like this... as if keeping the kids is going to help you get thier inheritances from them? I konw that's not the intent here, but do you SEE how this SOUNDS?
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Samsung
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Reged: 06/14/07
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The quote that drives me crazy is when I see "I get paid $XX in CS." If you look up the word paid, it means to recieve a monitary reward for providing a good or service.
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gigi
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You mean the service of keeping the kids from you and ocnvincing them that you're a deadbeat is not a valuable one that you're willing to "pay" for?
(sorry, couldn't help it... present company excepted, I'm sure)
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Samsung
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Or, that CS is labeled as a CS award in legal lingo. When I think of an award, I think of the Heisman trophy, or The Congresssional Medal of Honor.
The word award fits poorly, as awards are earned. Perhaps grant would fit better.
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twins1
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Reged: 06/26/08
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Loc: PA
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Yes I do see how this sounds and I do apologize to all you men or women who are paying child support. in no way did i mean to imply that i want my kids for the money. or that anyone else who receives CS is doing that. or that i can now "live big". i was just floored by the fact that someone would be able to live off of $70/mo. My stbx is generous enough to offer to pay me the amount of the mortgage each month so the kids can stay in the house. if he didn't we would be forced to move. keep in mind - he is also getting the savings and 1 of my 401k's. Under no circumstances will we be living the way we were used to living. it will be very hard on us all as it is on the majority of divorced families.
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gigi
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Here's teh thing, Twins, no one is SUPPOSED to live off $70 a month! That is teh stipend that her kids are supposed to get based upon how much time she has, how much time her ex has, how much income she has and how much income he has, whether he's paying extra for child care, medical care, etc. We have no idea the numbers for all these other things, so it's impossible to say fi the $70 a month figure is reasonable...
But one thing we know for SURE, SHE is NOT supposed to be living off it! And if she finds it too difficult to make ends meet, maybe she should offer to let her ex take more time with the kids.
I have noticed that for every woman who complains that the child support is not enough, there is a man who complains that he doesn't get enough time with his kids. Maybe if time were more fairly distributed, then the child support amounts might be more able to cover the needs of the children when at the mother's house.
But we've kidn of hijacked this thread... and I know YOU are probably not one of those women who keeps the kids away from thier father in the hopes of boosting the child support numbers... to get back to the original purpose of the thread... this woman who somehow wants her ex's inheritance to benefit HER is outrageous. She may not get as much child support as she'd like, but maybe if she wants the kids to get the benefit of living in a household where the adult doesn't have to budget for a mortgage, she could give the kids to her ex more often...
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