taryn
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why is her's .57 and his a different number?
this is just rote curiousity.
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Samsung
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.57 comes from having the kids 4 out of 7 days, or 4 divided by 7. The formula gets more complicated with the different incomes, but theirs are about the same.
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germangirl631
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I could never do a reimbursing setup. My stbx would NEVER reimburse me, so I have to lump everything into the CS number. We'll see what I get awarded tomorrow.
For me, to avoid as much contact and conflict as possible, I have to do the lump everything into CS approach and let CSE take care of it.
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cedc
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Your paperwork is too vague. Yes you can fix this and it sounds like you need to. Do you have all the receipts for all of those out of pocket expenses? The medical should be in the cs equation if that is your responsibility. It should also have a cut off point as well that requires him to start contributing more if large amounts of cash is being spent that is out of the norm. You should also have an agreement for extra activites that is split down the middle.If you pay his half he has 30 days until being reimbursed. To avoid any future fighting, make sure that you have a line stating that the other person doesn't agree to the stated activity, if in excess,( put a dollar amount on it) the party wishing to partake in that activity is financially responsible.
You have about the same schedule as me, but I go 5 days on/off during the summer.
Your cs amount sounds low to me, especially since you are covering medical. I have two boys, the schedule is about the same as mine, med benefits are employee sponsored(free) and mine and my X's incomes differ by 10k ( I make more) I pay $516.00
Her BF drinks the cs so I pay that amount PLUS most of the things you listed.
You need to redo your paperwork, I think your getting shortchanged. Screw waiting for your money, file a motion to modify and then hand it off to the cs people.
Alot of this you can do for free.
Go here:
www.njchildsupport.org
Go to google and put this in the search area. Click the links under that title. It appears that site has been phished, but the info tags work or just call the 800.
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pueblonative
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Loc: Colorado
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[quote]also, just to give you an idea of what these expenses are that i'm incurring:
school clothes and supplies
school lunches (all five days)
doctor co-pays
shoes
coats
hospital co-pay
extra-curricular fees and equipment
school trips
so as you can see, it's not taking them out to eat or buying them a new toy. it is legitimate expenses.
(this doesn't include that the majority of their extra-curricular activities fall on my parenting days, so i'm the one doing most of the driving to and from these activities.) [/quote]
I will go with you on everything but the last two. They are called extra-curricular for a reason.
As far as his financial situation goes, if it's going down (let's face it, the economy isn't what it used to be) it might be a good time for both of you to work out an agreeable average that you can live with. And remind him that it's going to be a lot easier dealing with these sorts of things beforehand. neither of you will benefit in the long run from arrears. The only peons who benefit from that work in the CSE and spend their time counting Title IV-D dollars.
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ssrachel
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Loc: a better place :)
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[quote][quote]also, just to give you an idea of what these expenses are that i'm incurring:
school clothes and supplies
school lunches (all five days)
doctor co-pays
shoes
coats
hospital co-pay
extra-curricular fees and equipment
school trips
so as you can see, it's not taking them out to eat or buying them a new toy. it is legitimate expenses.
(this doesn't include that the majority of their extra-curricular activities fall on my parenting days, so i'm the one doing most of the driving to and from these activities.) [/quote]
I will go with you on everything but the last two. They are called extra-curricular for a reason.
As far as his financial situation goes, if it's going down (let's face it, the economy isn't what it used to be) it might be a good time for both of you to work out an agreeable average that you can live with. And remind him that it's going to be a lot easier dealing with these sorts of things beforehand. neither of you will benefit in the long run from arrears. The only peons who benefit from that work in the CSE and spend their time counting Title IV-D dollars. [/quote]
i think school trips should be included (what should i do, tell my daughters they can't go on field trips?) and the extracurricular fees and equipment are sports, music lessons and scouts that the ex agreed to. i don't sign them up for things without discussing it with him.
as far as speaking to him about the child support...that is a lost cause. he informed me the other night that because he hasn't actually SEEN every item of clothing i bought for them for school, he's NOT paying for it. now mind you, my shopping is done at walmart and target or if it is a higher end store, it is clearance item that i bought. the last batch of receipts i sent him included clothing receipts and they totaled about $60 (for his half). not a tremendous amount. the next batch will include about the same. i don't go crazy with the shopping stuff. also the receipts were for lunch boxes and school supplies. i don't think $250 is a huge amount spent on two kids to get them started for the school year.
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