Separated Februrary 24 and divorced by April 25 this year. My ex and I are fighting over what is covered by child support. He says he has a list that he found on the internet (I have not found this list yet) and he will not give me a copy of his (I don't think he really has one). He told my 17 y/o daughter last year when we were still together that she could go to Spain with the Spanish class and that he would pay for it and that she could go with a Mission to Honduras like her sister did and he would pay for that also. We booked both trips while married but did not completely pay for them, now that we are divorced he is saying that he is not paying for either one because he pays me child support that covers this. I believe child support is for necessities, i.e., expenses incurred from day to day living, not for trips that together will total around $6,000 by the time we are done with them. I believe that when planning things like this it is what both parents think they can afford to do and split the cost. Does anyone have this "list"? Is there a "list"? Is there a good website out there I can go to that will talk about this and help me have something concrete to go on? Please!!!!!! Help me with this!!! I am tired of fighting about it.
First of all, your ex is blowing smoke. Child support is for the necessary items.
Second, he doesn't have to pay for the extraordinary extracurricular activities unless your court order says he has to. Typically, if the trips weren't addressed at the time of divorce (especially since they were booked when you were still together?), you probably won't get a judge to order him to pay his share of it.
You are right. What is sad is that he paid for our first daughter to do both of these trips while we were married, and is backing out on his promise to our second daughter because of the divorce stating that it is covered under child support and I have to pay for both trips--even though he was the one that gave her permission to go on both and had me book them before we were separated.
I know that I cannot force him to pay. I wish that he would honor his promise to her instead of wanting to get back at me for divorcing him when he thought his life was so perfect, when ours was falling apart from his abuse.
In another thread someone answered my question by saying that there may be simply not enough funds to go around now that he is paying child support, however, that has nothing to do with it as he is worth $2 million dollars even after the divorce, and I am not. It is just his ego which tells him that he is always right and everyone else is wrong--no matter what the consequences.
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