sisterneedshelp
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Reged: 09/28/08
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My sister just got married in July, and turns out the guy she married is a total psycho. We really think he is bipolar. She is pregnant now about 3 months or so. They found out she was PG the day before the wedding. When he gets mad, he puts her down like she's some kind of dog and then makes fun of her for crying for the way he is treating her. He has chest bumped a few times, and uses his size to intimidate her. She is scared shi%less of him. He just told her yesterday that he had a job to go to in the Panhandle of Oklahoma and that if she was there when he got back fine, or if she wasn't that was fine. Well today he told her that he wanted try and work it out, then about 30 minutes later, he told her that he didn't and that he is to old to change and that he would not sign the divorce papers. Can he do that? To me, it seems that he can't stop her from divorcing him, but I need some backup on that info. He told her that he would wait a few years, then they would get back together, now keep in mind that she will not even be living with him and he expects her to get back together with him. He is becoming quite the psycho husband. He took out all the cards in the satellite boxes yesterday so my nephews and my sister could not even watch tv. He left and went to a friends house to watch football and drink beer. I need more info on this matter to get this [censored] out of my sister's life. PLEASE HELP ME!! Any info would be appreciated.
Worried Sister
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jersey girl
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She will not be able to get divorced until the baby is born - most states do not allow it. However, she can leave any time. At some point, someone who doesn't respond just doesn't get a voice - they don't hold it up.
If she has been physically threatened by chest bumping - then she needs to get out now.
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gigi
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A man chest-bumping a pregnant woman is a weenie. She needs out because this kind of weenie doesn't see much problem with using his superior physical capacity to force his own interests, and unfortunately if he's as nuts as your'e saying, there's no way for her to even figure out how to predict what he wants at any given moment.
It doesn't much matter if he "signs" papers. Have her contact a local lawyer and have him served with papers, then depending upon the state, she needs to keep up with what the next step is in order to make sure it doesn't just disappear for lack of moving forward with it. He might decide not to do anything, which is easier for her but she has to do it ALL... or he might decide to fight it, which is a pain in the neck for her but at least she'll have a better chance of showing what a nutcase he is so that custody/visitation/child support issues will be resolved.
She's not goign to be allowed to finalize a divorce till the child is born, but there's no reason she can't get the process underway, so that maybe she can get him to pay temporary support, maintain medical insurance or whatever so that she and the baby will be fine in teh meantime.
Whatever life she left in order to be with him, though... she needs to expect to go back to IT and figure out how to make ends meet without much help from him, becasue child support for one baby is certainly not goign to support her plus the older kids.
Have her talk to a lawyer, asap, so that she will be protected from him as her pregnancy progresses.
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div2wice
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Reged: 09/05/08
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She can still get a divorce even if he decides not to sign. She may actually be able to get an annulment based on his mental status, or physical abuse...it all depends on your state laws and what reasons qualify for an annulment.
I agree, she needs to get out IMMEDIATELY. My husband is BiPolar and although he's stable & on medication, they can easily fly off the handle, especially when not monitored or on meds. He can really hurt her at the drop of a hat if something clicked wrong in his head. She needs to leave immediately and get the process started like the others said. Make sure her & the baby are safe, then once the baby is born the divorce can continue.
Best of luck, get her out of there ok?
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