Mom2three
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gigi
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It's been 2 years and you're just now getting a job? how in the WORLD have you been supporting yourself in the meantime, and wehre did the $60K come from that your first attorney got?
And what in the world did that first attorney do that justified the $60K? What was your hourly commitment to that laweyr and how much time did that lawyer spend on getting you to this point where it seems you have no options and no idea what's next?
Something is missing in this story and I knwo a lot of why it looks like something's missing is that you were trying to be short so that you could write it all down in a small space... but 2 years worth of divorce crazies (and that's what divorce is... crazy time)... and there's got to be a lot more to it than simply him paying support, picking up the kids every other weekend and suddenly stopping the support with no divorce in sight yet. SOMETHING had to have happened to stall out the divorce proceedings.
And you may need a new lawyer, one who will explain the stuff that's happening ot you in a way you can understand so that you'll at least have a timeline, an understanding of how much you can expect from your stbx, and of course someone who will be responsive if stupid stuff comes up like your ex refusing to pay support for so long that you end up in a food stamp line and quitting school. This is a whole lot of financial mess that can't just have come up overnight, so how it gets to the point where you're quitting school and looking for food stamps with no help in sight from your lawyer... something is missing from the story or you are in SERIOUS need of a new lawyer, one or the other.
Oh, and when you're interviewing new lawyers, ask for help in understanding where your $60K could have gone for the other lawyer and if they're going to expect another $60 K to get it finished theyr'e going to have to help you figure out where that will come from... and maybe if htey think that your previous lawyer didnot do the job well, maybe they can help you figure out how to get some of it back.
In any event, it's kind of short sighted for your stbx to cut you off to the point where you can't even go to school any more, because school is intended to help you become self-sufficient.
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I just deleted all my posts. I am upset and I vented all my stuff. I just wanted to know if anyone knows of any resourses.
I was a full-time mom- youngest is three, 8 and 10 year old.
I am trying now to find work where the childcare is not more for me than my income- (for three-year old).
My soon to be ex is in contempt for not paying court ordered child support for 8 months. I have a new attorney who is waiting to get the file from first attorney.
I have run out of money. my soon to be ex owns own business and says he is running at a loss now- his girl friend is supporting him.
Does anyone know any resourses for me in NYC?
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gigi
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I hope your new lawyer does better for you than your old lawyer and is able to jump on the case of getting your ex to pay your support. I know of no resources other than public assistance ANYWHERE in the country, but NYC is one of the most expensive places to live. Have you considered moving? As horrible as that sounds when you've got kids in school, if the place you're in is more expensive than you can afford, a move might be your only choice... at least the kids are younger!
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allthumbs
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The new attorney should file another contempt motion against your STBX and get him in front of the judge. In many cases, especially in CS matters, judges do not want to hear how "all of a sudden" business is off. It did no good in my divorce. The court took all my earnings over five years and averaged them, saying that is what I make. Then based the support amounts on that averaged income figure. That's what will most likely happen to your STBX. He'll get hit with sanctions as well. If he continues not paying, a jail sentence may be in his future. Courts do not like fathers who fail to support their children.
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