justme1961
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Reged: 03/11/08
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Well, things finally erupted last night. My husband has been moving things out of our old house while I am at work. Yesterday, he took the phone with the answering system. My daughter went NUTS. She sent me an e-mail, calling my husband all sorts of names because she NEEDED the phone.
My husband called me when he got back to our new place. He told me he had taken that phone and was going to replace it with the one we had been using (w/out the answering system). I told him I already knew about the phone because my daughter had e-mailed me. He wanted me to forward the e-mail to him. I told him I had already deleted it. (My mailbox at work fills up really fast, so I delete unimportant messages right away.) Of course, he didn’t believe me.
So, when I got home, he started on me. How I was at the old house doing damage control behind his back (I went there to pick up my son after football). I left work (30 miles away) at 6:00, stopped at the grocery store, KFC and the old house and was home by 7:15. How could I possibly be doing anything else?
By 10:00 he was all worked up. He left to go to the old house to confront my daughter and her BF. I refused to go. Of course, they were partying as usual. My husband asked them to leave, they refused. Apparently my daughter’s BF threatened him with a knife, the cops were called. Then the cops told my husband he cannot simply kick them out. Even though they have not paid a dime to live there, they are not doing the things they promised (i.e. taking care of the dogs until we can move them), they are living in filth and they are constantly drinking (underage) and doing drugs we cannot toss them unless we get a court order. WTF!
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germangirl631
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How old is this daughter? If she is 18, you can toss her out. Legal age, you can get tossed. If these kids are being this disrespectful to you and your property, would you consider having them arrested for doing illegal drugs? That would get them out. They could live in jail.
It's time to stop letting people take advantage of you. The natural consequences of doing drugs is getting arrested. If your daughter wants to biotch about an answering machine, she can buy her own! Where is she going to go when you move? Does she have a plan? Or is she going to be a squatter in the house until it forecloses? Someone is going to be experiencing a rude awakening shortly.
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justme1961
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Reged: 03/11/08
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She is 18, her BF is 19.
The cops are considering them to be "tenants". Even though there is no lease and the haven't paid anything to live there. Something about it being more than 30 days. Sounds retarded to me.
Yes, they are planning on staying until the end. They have no money.
I understand my husband's point, he doesn't want to (& we can't afford to)be supporting 2 households. We are going to try a shortsale, but that means the house has to be presentable. They are not helping the matter where that is concerned. In fact, they are making it worse. (My daughter's BF tossed his empty plastic cup into the woods while I was sitting in the driveway. I asked him to please not mess up my house-his response "it is not YOUR house anymore".)
I just wish my husband had taken a different approach. Instead of sneaking over there at night and shutting off the cable and power. He is putting me in an awkward position.
Edited by justme1961 (09/30/08 12:13 PM)
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jersey girl
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You are the owner. If there is no lease, there is no proof that they can show a court to live there.
So, wait until they are not home. Go in and change the locks. If they break in, then they are now breaking and entering.
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mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
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Loc: Florida
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[quote]You are the owner. If there is no lease, there is no proof that they can show a court to live there.
So, wait until they are not home. Go in and change the locks. If they break in, then they are now breaking and entering. [/quote]
If they are receiving mail at the residence then they are a legal tenant & you will have to evict them, lease or no lease. Welcome to my world of deadbeat tenants (whether you meant for them to be or not) that have more rights than the property owner who pays the taxes & mortgage.
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justme1961
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My husband told the cops they did not have a lease. One of the cops actually told my husband HE was the one who should be arrested for entering their property without their permission. Sometimes I HATE living a hokey little town. I don't think half the cops in our town would know the law if it smacked them in the face.
I am ALL DONE being nice to people. All that happens is I get screwed. I can't believe they are getting mad at us for removing OUR POSSESSIONS and shutting down services WE are paying for. Geez, sorry if you have to give up the 70" TV you have been watching all summer,the playstation that belongs to my husband, the computers and phones that belong to us, the washing machine that we need at our new house and the sofa we need for OUR living room.
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