malone, thanks for giving her that advice. i needed the same reminder myself this weekend.
taryn.
[quote][quote].. he tells me he deserves better and that im fat ( im 5foot 3 and weigh 130ibs), unattractive and that he cant bear to be in the same room as me, he says he cant even look at me. [/quote]
Hi Zee.
Just stop right there with that bit in the quote. Go back and read what you just wrote about your marriage.
That's not a marriage. Husbands who love their wives don't talk to them in that way. A man who adores his wife doesn't say things like that. I'm really sorry that you have to listen to such demoralising things.
It's not you. It is bad. That's a man with serious issues and one who doesn't seem to love you or is very sick. If he does love you, he sure has a strange way of showing it.
So many people here have tried to fix what didn't feel right for a long time, only to come away finally accepting they couldn't fix it.
That's your choice now - without having to waste years and years of your life to only find out the same thing you're finding now.
Good luck. Everyone deserves to be loved properly by their husband or wife. Don't settle for so much less. [/quote]
You don't deserve this kind of emotional abuse. A good and loving husband would not tell you that he deserves someone better just because you are fat (and as what you've described.. you are not!), you slouch, etc etc etc.
He doesn't deserve better, YOU deserve better. Talk to him, or you two can go see someone who can help you. If everything else becomes worse, you have other options than just staying in this marriage.
Leave, life is too short. One day you will be on you death bed. Hopefully many decades from today but one day you will be there like all of us. On that day you should be able to look back and say to yourself I had a great life. I took advantage of the gift of life and I have little or no regrets. Now just because you leave doesnt mean you wont spend the rest of your life with this man. If he truly loves you he will make the changes needed to make sure you both are happy. My wife did it to me before we were married. I was turning into my father and I didnt even realize it 6 months after we moved in together. I couldnt hear what she was saying until one day she said she was leaving me. Luckily for me she never did, I listened to her and I changed for the better. We are now happily married with a beautiful 10 month old son. Back to you, if he loves you the way he should he will make it right, if he doesnt you will find out soon enough. Good luck I wish you the best.
hey babe like so many others i think u know the answer,but you and only you can make that descesion on your own.but from experence it will only get worse
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