HELLDOG488
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Reged: 07/01/08
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Can or will the system ever be civil? NOT in our lifetimes and that sucks for the future of our offspring. It is so very onesided and blind, but i now strongly believe that they will all burn in the end.....its just sad for now that they dont relize what they have done...
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germangirl631
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Reged: 04/04/08
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The system CAN be civil. The participants need to start the process by being civil and cooperative themselves. If it doesn't start right, most bets are off.
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HELLDOG488
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Reged: 07/01/08
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the atty's wont let that happen........more time more money
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allthumbs
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Reged: 07/12/07
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Here's the problem as I see it. Divorce ( dissolution of marriage ) is a lawsuit. One spouse sues the other. Also, because of no-fault, there are no consequences, so to speak. Plus, the idea of entitlement. Take my case for example. Married over 20 years with one child. My now ex wife decides that after 20 yrs. being married to a man 10 yrs. older isn't what she wants and divorces me to be with a younger man. She filed, she committed adultery, she's the one that broke the vows, she was not willing to consider reconciling. But, she felt she was ENTITLED to be supported. AND, she had quit her job of 23 yrs to move to be near the "guy". I took me three yrs. and many thousands in attorney's fees to get the court ordered support terminated. There were no consequences to her for her behavior. She originally expected me to give her a 1/4 of a million dollars plus CS and SS. Ours was one of the most protracted cases in our county BECAUSE the attorney whom she hired told her he would get all this for her and she believed him. She sued me to not only divorce me but to destroy me. I fought back out of survival. I had no choice. She was listening to those who had a profit motive: her attorney and boyfriend. I wanted to be civil; she could not. Now, I have 100% legal and physical permanent custody of our daughter, and I pay no CS or SS. I get no support from my daughter's mother but that's ok. I got stuck with a house I re-fied at $500,000.00 to buy the ex out. And it's worth 1/2 that. No one's fault. The housing downturn that I didn't see coming. IMO, IF there were still divorce laws where one could be faulted, then perhaps things would be different. Couples may try harder to work things out.
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HELLDOG488
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Reged: 07/01/08
Posts: 262
Loc: oh
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Im sorry for what you had to go through but im glad you seem to have done good....I mean i would pay twice as much too have custody of my kidos.....And i truelly believe that if such a committment and really a vow can be broken like it has been there should be FAULT.....But just got to fight for the good now..
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