I personally wa always adamant about domestic abuse. I had to, on several occasions save, more or less remove my cousin from an abusive situation at the hands of her husband. More recently it happened to me. I didn't see it coming. It started so gradually. Anyway, long story short, I dealt with verbal and emotional abuse and at times physical, but the latter not very often or severe. I think the only reason it stopped is because an altercation occurred when ( one of the many times) I was trying to walk/run away and he caught up to me outside and two undercover policemen witnessed his actions. I pressed charges and later dropped them because I felt bad. I actually considered reconciling and then though better of it. I gave up my apartment to him because for my own safety(he's trapped me there before). So it was a "temporary separation and during that time he changed the licks and took everything(all was in my name because he had bad credit) and left me with all the bills. Even things that weren't yet paid for, I'm still paying on now, even took the car I signed for. He is the cosigner though so I couldn't declare it stolen. Now he isn't even making the payments(all bills come to me) and he's running tollbooths like a madman, all coming to me because the car is registered in my name before his.I bought our wedding rings and even put the wedding hall on my credit card. So needless to say I'm hurting right now. He even called my work(which I voluntarily resigned from for my own protection) to discredit me and try to get me fired. So now, also needless to say, I need some kind of support group. I have gotten new employment and did a debt resolution(except for the car and the tires which I am still paying for) but I have a lawyer and all that(if we can find him). I just want to find somewhere close I can go to talk with other s that are going through similar circumstances. Any suggestions?
{hugs} call your local Domestic abuse shelter. Mine has a number of groups that I attend. They can also help get your an attorney for little cost to get your money back. If he has the car, cancel the insurance.
Hi im a mother of 4 2 of which are not my husbands childern their age 11 8 5 and 4 we have been married for 7 yrs and it has always been one thing or another with drinking drugs dui(3) and lie after lie I was the one who thought I could be the one to save him and I relized after 5 yrs that i couldnt but that just fueled his fire and like a kid he would rebel and blame me saying things like my attitude was the reason he would leave and go on a bing well I had enough and got a restraining order on him and he was forced to leave the home we did not even speak for 6 months during that time he spiraled down into a drunken stupper from what I was hearing the restraing order was eventually lifted to make things a little less complicated I soon got wind that he wsa dating a woman that has been a friend of his family for 18yrs I was so hurt how could they both go there she was at our wedding for gaud sake we also spent every 4th together with the rest of the family so I decided to confront him on the issue thats when it all started again he lied through his teeth and said the things I had always wanted him to say I was so fooled we got back together and it has been one thing after another he got right back into drinking like a fish and pulling his typical stuuf like getting so drunk that he would pas out and urinat all over the place he then bought I motorcycle picked a fight and took off 6hrs later the er called he wrecked I got there to find him a mess 2 broken vertibres a dislocated foot with numerous bad wounds i stood by his bed side for a wk. He was eventually released and I had do all the care for him along take 4 kids to school etc. He told everyone that this was it he had finaly seen the light.I wasnted to believe him so bad but I knew his injurys were the onlything holding him back and I was right 3 wks later He picked a fight and away he went 2 days Iam so mad at myself he is ruining everything and again I am ready to get out of this again,my poor kids but were better off. But now where do I start he wont leave and says that Im giving up on everything throwing it away and somtimes I feel that its true and it is breaking me down to nothing I am having anxiety and feel I need counselng to help me get through this.
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