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I can really relate to what you are going thru. Our 16 year old caught her father having an online affair with a woman from California. He informs us he's in love and wants to be with this woman he has never seen. We also have a son in Iraq. We have been married for 24 years and he keeps telling the kids how selfish they are for not wanting him to be happy. He told our daughter that he won't be able to help her with college because he has to start his new life. Between his drunken girlfreinds call (they are ones where she is threatening my life) and him doing a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde I am ready to spit. He cornered our daughter 3 days after she caught him, trying to tell her about his girlfriend and how if she would just talk to her he knows she would like her. Oh by the way she says her husband has abused her for years. He has knifed her, and just last month got out of jail for holding a gun to her head & threatening to kill her. Now she is moving so he can't find her, but my husband says it'll be fine for out daughter to come stay with them cause she has a restraining order. I have told him good, hold in front of your face when he comes after you, I'm sure it will keep you safe. IS HE NUTS!!! My kids have been raised in a home where honesty, intergrity, and morals have been a way of life. I'd to also mention I'm a cancer patient. When I finally had enough of the phone calls, the last one stating I'm gonna die I finally called the police. He got mad at me saying what is your problem with her calling! (duh)Needless to say financially I am in the toilet especially since I have no health care because we use his. The mood swings are the worst though. He keeps saying when are you getting out (excuse me but I put the money up for this house from a settlement I received prior to our marriage.) I also have to have a place to take our daughter in the same school district she has attended all her life, where there is no cheap real estate. He says just leave her here with him, her answer is mom I'd be just fine in a cardboard box really we'd make it cozy. I figure he can get off on an insanity plea. He finds nothing bazarre about going off to meet a drunk who is a wacko (I wonder if the deputy was using an official term when he said that hah). I do believe it sounds like a match made in heaven. My daughter is so pleaseed that her 56 year old father is going out with someone from myspace. (I guess you don't call it going steady anymore) I know what I think of this, wonder what everybody else does.