mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
Posts: 3214
Loc: Florida
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I got flowers today. It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night, And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.
I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare.
I couldn't believe this was real. I wok up thismorning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today, and it wasn't Mother's day or any other special day.
Last night, he beat me up again. And it was much worse than all the other times.
If I leave him, what will I do?
How will I take care of my kids? What about money?
I'm afraid of him and scared to leave.
But I know he must be sorry
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night, he finally killed me.
He beat me to death.
If only I had gathered
Enough courage and strength to leave him,
I would not have gotten flowers today.
-creators syndicate inc.
I'm tired and must go to bed, but you can be guaranteed that I will continue to post more on this subject at a later date. Good night, hold your children tight!
Holly
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koula60
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Reged: 07/25/06
Posts: 1121
Loc: Notheast
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Thank you Holly for again putting my life and my recent decisions into perspective.
I always told my husband when he threatened he would kill me "i refuse to be a statistic" but i told him i would make sure he was one!!
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Walking through the Pain.
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lncrys
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Reged: 03/08/06
Posts: 1833
Loc: Phoenix, AZ
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Story of my life. I only got flowers when I found out about new affairs or after the abuse.
I really would love to get flowers for beautiful reasons now, if they weren't so darn expensive I would get them for myself ;)
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I support, admire and respect men!
I am not a feminist!
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sunshine
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Reged: 04/28/06
Posts: 3078
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I know...he would buy them too...it became a habit never an apology....when you say your sorry...that should be the end...never brought up again.....but...that's the normal way....we are not dealing with a normal man...abuse is repetative and apologies are for healing .....confusion is they're game.
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mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
Posts: 3214
Loc: Florida
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Oh my ex started off the first years of marriage stating that he would only buy flowers if things were going good in our relationship - he apparently was waiting for perfection because he wouldn't even buy me birthday or anniversary presents.
In the last two years he bought flowers when he f#cked up - I should have known when he came down for Thanksgiving and brought me flowers that he was cheating.
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sadpuppy
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Reged: 03/11/06
Posts: 1465
Loc: michigan west coast
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this post really got to me...i was physically abused and did nothing someone else payed for it.. its a really long story.... someone died.. and october 3 marks the anniversary of that death.. i feel the giuilt every oct 3rd should have been me!!
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mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
Posts: 3214
Loc: Florida
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I don't necessarily understand - did you lose a child due to being abused?
You can't feel guilt for something that wasn't your fault -not leaving the abusive situation does not mean it's your fault. There are so many reasons why we don't/can't leave. You can't blame yourself - your not the one that was responsible.
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koula60
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Reged: 07/25/06
Posts: 1121
Loc: Notheast
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Never any gifts, only one birthday gift i remember in 23 years. Christmas none!
He wasn't the typical abuser that would give me gifts after a episode, wasn't that way.
I don't even know why i bother to write anything.
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Walking through the Pain.
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koula60
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Reged: 07/25/06
Posts: 1121
Loc: Notheast
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So sorry sadpuppy, but sweety it is not your fault.
So is the jerk far away from you now,are you safe.
I sure hope you are. I am sorry for you "friend". I am so happy you are with us and you are away from your ex.
HUGS to you.
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sadpuppy
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Reged: 03/11/06
Posts: 1465
Loc: michigan west coast
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this is hard to talk about this is someone in my past they are in prison now every year they come up for parole. no it wasnt a child. cant say any more...but oct 3 is really really hard..as the guilt seems to take over and i still have visions of things i dontwant to see.
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mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
Posts: 3214
Loc: Florida
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**just wanted to bump this up to the front for any newbies**
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mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
Posts: 3214
Loc: Florida
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[quote]**just wanted to bump this up to the front for any newbies** [/quote]
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Lacy1
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Reged: 03/06/08
Posts: 152
Loc: Coastal Area
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Hey guys..........you know it is kinda funny how they are all about the same (the abusers).
I was emotionally and psychologically along with OTHER abuses.
The only time he ever physically abuse me was July 8th of 2007. That was it. The first and the last.
I knew it would and could get worse...........long story short. I left.
Thanks so much for posting this poem. It is beautiful. I am going to copy it to some of my friends.
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His loss not mine
Heavenbound and proud of it.
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tookway2much
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Reged: 03/31/08
Posts: 627
Loc: Going toward the light!
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Such a beautiful poem. Such a true one. Except i never got flowers, it was always "Why do you make me mad."
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I don't worry about the people in my past. There is a reason they are not in my future.
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mistake#2
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Reged: 07/19/06
Posts: 3214
Loc: Florida
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[quote]I got flowers today. It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night, And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.
I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare.
I couldn't believe this was real. I wok up thismorning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today, and it wasn't Mother's day or any other special day.
Last night, he beat me up again. And it was much worse than all the other times.
If I leave him, what will I do?
How will I take care of my kids? What about money?
I'm afraid of him and scared to leave.
But I know he must be sorry
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night, he finally killed me.
He beat me to death.
If only I had gathered
Enough courage and strength to leave him,
I would not have gotten flowers today.
-creators syndicate inc.
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sharleyzak
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Reged: 09/30/08
Posts: 9
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sad but so true..
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