My husband and recently seperated. It was a long time coming, and I'm not saying it was all his fault, I'm not perfect, but I wanted things to end amicably. I was with him since i was 16(at least on and off) We have been married since 1997. he's had multiple affairs, and more importantly he was with my mother 5 years ago. When he left, he went back to her, and now he's taking me to court for spousal support. I have been supporting him and our three sons for the majority of 5 years. I don't want to do it anymore, yes, a little bit out of spite and hurt, but also because I work very hard, and already have hardly anything to show for it. I don't think it is fair to my sons' either. I live in Pennsylvania. I've been un-happily married for 9 years
Wow, that has to be hard – his having been w/your mother & now returning to her. I can’t imagine that! Have you filed against him for child support? Even if he doesn’t have an income they may be able to “impune”(?) what he should be earning if he doesn’t have proof of being unable to work. This should offset any spousal support the court orders you to pay him. I am also in PA & pay my stbx spousal support – he tried to claim disability but had no proof (never goes to the dr, etc). My atty & I argued that he could work & they assigned f/t wages @$6.25/hr so that reduced what I have to pay him (in PA it’s 40% of your net income – but I don’t know what having kids does to those figures). Good luck!
Thank you very much for replying to me. I just filed for child support today. Thankfully the county agency knows his name enough(he doesn't pay for his two daughters either). Our hearings will coincide with each other on the same day, so like you stated, I'm really hoping that his support for my sons will offset what I may have to pay. I really do appreciate your post to me, I really just needed to vent, and didn't think many people would be able to stomache my message. I just wish that it wasn't real life for me, but thanks again!
Niki, Do you live seperate? i know in Pittsburgh if you do live apart for 2 yrs and anything over a yr of him supporting himself he won't get spousal. know if he would of filed right after he left he might but since he has been gone and on his own you can prove he did fine without you. and if he left you he won't get anything either.
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