nowwhat
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I need some help in understanding how I have lost everything, my car, my pre-marital belongings, my current pay and most importantly my children. My soon to be ex-wife has alienated my children, I pay 92 percent of my childrens support, all of the bankruptcy, she has the car, the home, all belongings acquired before and during the marriage and she is not abiding by the visitation orders set forth by the Judge. 98 percent of all of my income going to support my children and soon to be ex. I cannot afford to travel( 1600 miles round trip) when SHE refuses to bring the children to the court ordered meeting point and my attorney tells me I need to comply because I am "Just" the father." How do I enforce the court order? I can't afford to see a Doctor, Get glasses, clothing and such due to the financial situation my soon to be ex has gotten me into. She lied on the Department of CHild SUpport application by stating she only makes 200.00 per month, yet she was and currently is working full time as a Domestic Violence crisis case manager. Then again in court several months ago she stated to the judge she was indeed working full time. She has already gone against court orders on several issues, such as refusing to add our children to her cell phone plan as she promised the Judge she would do at a total cost of an additional 10.00 per month. The same day after court she told me I had to give her 200.00 in cash to get a phone for the kids. I ended up setting them up a plan with a phone for 100.00 and 20.00 per month for the plan. She is refusing to allow the children access to their phone to call me when they would like to. She has told the courts the children sre terrified of me. Thankfully my youngest cant lie and told the Judge his mom had told him to say that. I could go on and on and on.
I am at a loss......
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justgottabreathe
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Do you have an attorney?
-------------------- Anne Marie
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Been there, done that, got the t-shirt:)
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nowwhat
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Yes, I have an attorney as is stated in my post about my attorney telling me that " I need to comply with my ex-wifes decisions to not follow the Judges orders. What I dont understand is how she is allowed to go against Judges/Court orders... I am amazed.
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koula60
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I sure hope some of our smart knowledgeable members will respond to you and give you some advice, i just wanted to say how sorry i am you are in such a difficult situation!
This woman sounds like a B*TCH and more............
Make sure you are recording everything that she is doing against the court orders.
I wish you all the best with the situation.
Sounds like the lawyer isn't all that bright, or is there more to your story that we don't know?
Best of luck!Keep us posted.
-------------------- Walking through the Pain.
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davej
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Welcome to VA! First off, you need to fire your dirtball attorney! Then you need to document everything. If you need to travel to get or see your kids save all records of the trip. If you cant see your kids because she will not meet you where the Judge said to meet you, document this. Show up where you are supposed to meet and buy a cup of coffee with a credit card. Print the statement. There are a million things you can do to show that she has no respect for the courts. You need an attorney that will highlight this fact to the Judge. No Judge likes to be disobeyed! I have seen custody cases overturned when there is denial of court ordered visitation for any reason. GET A GOOD ATTORNEY NOW! Good luck!
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KGrow
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Loc: Colorado
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Like Davej says, your attorney appears to be off-line. This is the nost straightforward explaination for your situation. If visitation orders are flagrantly disobeyed the appropriate response it to file a contempt of court charge.
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