Ange
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Well hello 2 ya'll....
As u'll see I'm a newbie to this here forum. I have only read thru a couple of posts. Looks interesting enough. I like how ya'll seem to be there for one another. My husband and I were married on May 14, 1991 and have a 14 year old wonderful son together. My husband had an affair about 4 years ago, which he ended up moving out with her. Only to come back and forth, which I allowed only becuz I love him and wanted him home with his son and I. Well that went on for around a year then he finally came back home. It had been a total nightmare, the year he was with the other woman. The dealings with her were more than a nightmare in its self. Well here we are again in the year 2006. My husband once again started fooling around with someone. This time it was with a woman we've known for about 10 years. She hadn't ever shown any interest in him until she heard that we might be selling 40 acres of our farmland for a little over a million dollars. Thats when she started coming over everyday, so on and so on. It ended up that I knew he was messing around with her. I went and talk reasonible to her but as soon as I left she called his cell phone. He ended up disappearing the next morning with her. I or our 14 year old son didn't hear from him for aprox. 3 weeks. Then he only called cuz I had put a 'Claim of Lien' on the 40 acres of ours. Well he went in to sign the closing for the land with D.O.T. for one million dollars but couldn't cuz of my lien. He called mad as hell at me. Cussing and cussing at me threating me if I didn't lift the lien right away. Well I finally told him "Don't u know that u get more bees with honey then vinager?" Well after that he hung up only to call back 15 minutes later with a new tatic. He said that he'd let his son and I live in the house until I was to die if I'd lift the lien. I kind of chuckled at that and just so he'd stop bugging me I agreed to go sign the papers tomorrow to lift the lien. Although I didn't. I went in to start the divorce prossedings instead. Well its been a mess since. It ended up that he took me to court 'Motion to show cause' regarding the lien. I lost. The lien was lifted. Well then I was advised that he couldn't get any monies from the property cuz since I was his wife I'd have to sign the papers at the title company too. Well low and behold when he went to the title company and she asked about his wife, he stated to her that he was no longer married. So the million dollars got deposited into his bank account. The lawyer I had hired previously skipped town with what little money that I had to borrow to pay him skipped town. I couldn't find him anywhere. So I had to hire another attorney, which I did. She seems to be a great attorney too, so far. Things have just begun for me. He is trying to say all sorts of things to get out of having to give me or our son any money at all. I just can't understand how I was married to someone that is such a shit! Plz excuse my choice of words there... lol. I mean he has never gave us any money at all other than $100.00. Even when he left he didn't leave us any money at all. I reckon' I should just be glad we're still here in the house, which I am of course. Anyways, my question is this --> I have to fill out a Finantial Declaration and don't know how to do it actually. Do I put my income and expenses simce he has left or do I put what we got before he abandoned us? Will he have to fill out one also besides me? He has all that money in his bank account and I want to make sure that thae Judge sees that and that I have no access to it at all. He has already spent $300,000.00 of the money without setting up any kind of fund for his son or given him any money at all. He gave me $100.00 for groceries right after he had gotten it. I don't think it's him as much as his girlfriend thats being so greedy. I can't believe how badly he appears to have changed cuz of her and the money. Well thank you so much for listening. I kind of just gave ya'll a fast run down of whats happening here in our life. Theres so much more bullshit thats went on besides. Again, thank you for letting me vent and asking that above question :-) Angela
Edited by Ange (10/17/06 05:03 PM)
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adrenaline
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Angela,
There is a lot of information. I want to respond better, but I didn't get a chance to take in the whole story. I will get back soon.
Mike
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adrenaline
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You will have to put in you income as of now as he will too. You do have quite the mess there. The title company should have not been able to do anything without your signature no matter what he said. They will be in big time trouble and you could probably sue them for it. <--ask your lawyer.
He will probably not have to pay back the 300,000 but with your mess anything is possible. You need to get a good lawyer. He will not get away scott free but the longer you wait the less you will get.
Go to your lawyer right now or tomorrow morning depending when you read this.
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Ange
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Hi Mike,
I have been to my attorneys and to court even. Once anyways. That’s when I got the fina. Declaration papers to fill out regarding income & expenses. Regarding the title company --> my lawyer had talked to the lady at the title company a few days after he had gotten the million dollars for the property and she stated herself to my attorney that when my husband was in that he told her that he wasn't married any longer. She believed him it appears cause she did go ahead and issue him the money into his bank account without my, his wife’s signature. So you think that She/title Company can get into trouble about that? Gawd, I don't like the thought of more people having hassles since there seems to be hassles all the time everywhere and with everyone. But I reckon' I'll speak to my attorney about it cause I'd not like to see someone else have to go through all this same sort'a crap.
I wonder if when he fills out his fina. Declaration papers and it shows that he isn't employed and use to work here on the farm with me as a team if the Judge will still order him to pay any child support or/& spousal maintenance based on the fact that he has a little under a million dollars in his bank account cause of the sale of the 40 acres.
Thanx for your time, Angela
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adrenaline
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You will be taken care of. You live in WA you will win by default.
He will be ordered to pay CS for sure not too sure about alimony, but you will most likely be awarded half of whatever money he has left from the sale. He will no doubt be pissed, but he doesn't sound real smart to me anyways.
I think the title company is in big shit trouble if they took you Hubbys word. I don't think they did. I would be willing to bet he made some shady deal and he will get busted in the end.
Don't fret too much just keep your eyes open and hire that lawyer.
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Ange
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Okay Mike... Thank you so much for Ur advice. What does it mean to win by default anyway? I don't mean to sound stupid or anything but I'm not sure what ya mean. I wish I had the gumption to type all that is at stake here but I just don't. There is the issue also of the farmhouse and 20 acres where I, we lived. I still am living here with our 14 yr old son. He had abandoned us and the place here. We didn't hear from him for such a long time because he was off in a motel with his girlfriend. When he finally did call he threatened me cause of the lien I had put on the 40 acres he ended up selling for the million dollars. My question is... Do ya think that our son and I will get to remain in the house here also? Thanx
Edited by Ange (10/18/06 02:58 PM)
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adrenaline
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Well I can't promise you that. I know he will not have to support you when it is done, or if he does it will be temporary. If you can afford to stay and he says it is ok than you probably can. Otherwise he will have to sell it and split the equity with you. You might be able to work some deal out between you. I don't know your situation but maybe you can take some of the money he owes you and buy his part of the house and get the house for yourself.
Oh ya you will win by default because you are a mom. Moms always win here. You probably don't need a lawyer, but in your case I suggest one. Too much shady stuff going on and you will need someone that knows the law.
Good luck.
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Ange
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Hello again....
Well I've went to court twice now. The first court hearing the Judge ordered my husband to transfer the proceeds of the sale which is aprox. $750,000.00 from our property to his attorneys trust account at the bank. My husband has not did it as of yet. Plus he has continued to spend that money freely and without a care on whatever he chooses. Last wednesday it had been 2 wks since the Judge ordered my husband to do that and he has not yet. The Judge ordered $1800.00 month family support at our last court hearing, which he hasn't paid yet either. So am I divorced yet? Will I have any more court dates? What happens now?
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adrenaline
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Well you haven't given me enough info to go on, but it sounds like he is in serious contempt of court. I think he is on a path to destruction.
That is an amazing judgement but your lawyer and your judge should have made it clear to where you stand. I would get ahold of your lawyer to make sure.
Sounds like you are going to come out smelling like a rose here.
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