My wife has a boyfriend and wants a divorce. She is being very untruthfull about the relationship wit him for a long time. His name has been linked to long phone call to my wife for about 2 years. I intercepted som e-mails that profess love for each other. He is also married. My wife seens to do whatever possible to keep any discomfort from comming to this man. We have been together for 19 years. She has said some very hurtfull things blaming me for everything but the war in Iraq. We have a son who just turned 18. He has Cerebral Palsy and it requires both of us and a home health aide to care for him on a daily basis. With the exception of my work schedule I am the only one who could handle the care physically by myself. I have not been the ideal husband infact I was a pretty big ass. I think I took for granted too much. I displayed a mean temper and would say hurtful things to people. I have been going to therapy for a year now and I am making progress. My wife even says I have improved. First of all I do not want to be divorced. I do not want to be a partime care giver to my son. My wife has mentioned putting him in a group home. He is his own person but one or both of us should be his guardian. A home of any type for my son is out of the question. He will go to scholl til he is 22. My wife is very mad and wants the divorce she is saying hurtful things to my son also. IS there any way to keep us together till my son turns 22 and is done with school. We have been co exsisiting for the past couple of years we can continue. I have asked her to go to counseling but she says no. Can you offer any advise? what is the longest time I can delay a divorce.
Is the real reason you want to delay the divorce the care of your son or that you just don't want to let go of your wife? If your son is getting that difficult and you need to work and your wife does not want to care for him anymore maybe a group home is the answer....you son may benefit from this as the staff are trained to work with him and take care of his needs and to keep him as independent as they can. You could still take him home with you on the weekends but it would give you the time to get over your wife and your marriage and to move on...this would be better for you and probably better for your son...it sounds like your marriage is very dysfunctional and if your wife is turning her anger on your son that is not good...I realize this is hard but isn't staying together going to be even harder...how are you going to deal with her being with this other man? Do you want to be room-mates? I think you need to think of yourself and your son and forget about your wife...it seems she has forgotten about you and your son already and moved on...good luck...
It sounds like you are really hurting. I dont think it is good for you or your son to stay in this situation. Your wife has made her choice and she cohabits with you because it gives here the best of both worlds. I am currently separated from my husband unlegally his choice,and I know your hurt but trust me when I tell you..you must care about yourself and move forward..your son will always be your son and the law protects you rights as a father...gather your dignity and move out and on..good luck to you
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