malcolmclark
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Reged: 11/20/06
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I have been divorced now for three years. I have two children that I pay support for after being umemployed for about 18 months (back support).
I gave the ex and the children the paid for home and I left with some tools and a couple broken vehicles. As I am employed full time on my second job since my divorce, I still do not make enough to pay my monthly support due. I am short about $50 per month. I am also a musician that depends on gigs (employment as the state considers it) that get booked months in advance. The problem is that the state treats these gigs as employment and issues garnishment papers to club owners, who would rather not deal with the state so they drop me, fire me or whatever you want to call it. The state has hindered my music career which I have invested many years into. I have moved to and from several counties to try and establish soem income before the state gets involved, all the while while, tryign to maintain a relationship with my two children and incurring the cost of visitation travel. The mother has not once picked up or dropped off the children in three years.
I have had my license suspended due to back support. I am 50 years old and not looking at making much longer. I have very little fight left in me and not sure that back support will ever get caught up.
I have been making headway with my children. The mother finally asked me to help her deal with the kids as they are out of control. Well, she is the one out of control and I would like nothing better than to get her into court and have some judge spank her ass.
Why did I post this? I guess it takes time away from me thinking of violence directed toward some parties.
I can only hope that my children will grow up knowing that The states' laws suck and somehow the restrictions placed on their father by the state and their mother, have some how made me a better person for their sake.
WA DCS, you suck!
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subzero
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Reged: 07/24/06
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DCS is all dads enemy. The state of WA sucks period. The ex wife's get richer while the dads get one week visit and EOW. This is a cookie cutter state and it shows. The divorce laws do nothing for dads. We get screwed every time we turn the corner at trying to make a living. Believe me, we feel your pain.
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"Divorce hurts, including children."
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adrenaline
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Reged: 03/21/06
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[quote] Believe me, we feel your pain. [/quote]
And how!!!!
Couldn't have said it better myself.
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The problem isn't the game; it is that nobody knows the rules.
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lorie9095
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Reged: 12/09/06
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Hi guys,
I'm a mom who is certainly not any richer because of DCS. My children do get support but I also work full-time and take care of them on my own. The ex is going on trips to Hawaii with his girlfriend and buying her everything her heart desires. My son just asked him to help with purchasing a car and he said no. My daughter needs braces and even though they are insured under their father's health plan, it doesn't cover orthodontics. So...he told me that he pays enough, he doesn't have to do anythimg more (legally) so if the kids need anything else, they need to get it from me--he's done. When I call DCS to ask ANY question, my case worker could care less. DCS is a pain--for all of us.
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subzero
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Reged: 07/24/06
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DCS is ran backwards and they suck. It's pretty simple. I can't stand my ex wife for the most part. She went crying to DCS about me being behind on my CS. Then she contacts my work and cries I took her off my medical insurance. Now I have to put her back on because she knows my medical will be done once our divorce is final. Talk about a pain in the ass. She wants me to move on but she isn't able to get her own medical through her own employer. The ex is unreal.
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"Divorce hurts, including children."
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lorie9095
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Hi Subzero,
You are so right about this system and the whole business of divorce stinks. I can see where you are being taken advantage of but the ex does need to be responsible for herself.
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adrenaline
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Reged: 03/21/06
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Lorie,
I really appreciate you here. I hope you are strong. Being a guy in WA most of the WA posts are going to be men I am sure. I hope you can keep an open mind. I think you will be a great addition to our forum, but I hope you will not be easily offended. I think you will be a great asset to us. I hope you can give us a different perspective.
I read your stuff about your husband and not helping with braces.
Here is my take.
I think the money I pay my ex is rediculous for the money I make. I hate her and the situation and she hides behind the damn courts that are legacy at best.
It would piss me off and I would want to kill my exfriend even more but my son is my son. I would get braces on his mouth. I agree that I pay her more than she needs and she should be able to afford it but she won't save the excess. The other psrt too is you wouldn't believe the money she spends on him. She wouldn't afford braces, but 600 dollars worth of video games is OK. So now I would have to buy him braces? Anyways Luckily my son has perfect teeth, so that is money I don't have to come up with, but to let you know. I would be the biggest ass in the world, but my kids teeth would be fixed. I wouldn't actually have the money to pay for it because I do pay too much support. But I would knock over a 7/11 if I had too.
Man I am in a bad mood today. I hope I didn't give you a bad first impression. I really don't mean to scare you off.
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subzero
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Reged: 07/24/06
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I paid for my step son's braces through my insurance. Now my ex wants to reap my benefits. The woman wants me to move on but she went and cried to her atty. "He took me off the medical insurance." Trust this and me, I let her know about it. She has nothing on me and can't do jack. I just want to move with my life away from her. She needs rebuild her life without me being reliable for her medical insurance. She's just a biotch. Pretty simple to understand.
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adrenaline
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I agree why the hell should you have to pay, she wanted her independence let her pay. Maybe she should pay for your insurance? oh but that would just be ridiculous.
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