ConfusedInCT
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Reged: 04/29/06
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I am a stay-at-home mother of two small children. Staying home was my idea & I'm sad to say it has turned out to be one of the stupidest things I've ever done. I absolutely adore my children! However, since I don't bring in any income, I feel trapped in my marriage & don't know what to do. My husband is an alcoholic. I began to notice his heavy drinking about 3 years ago when I was pregnant with our first child. He would come home from work, drunk... I would get angry... he would tell me he was fine... over and over. He has gotten drunk while watching our children & once even threw up all over our 2 month old daughter. He has gotten drunk while "working" in our garage... he then came inside & ordered $52 in Chinese food for two people! One day he started looking at AA meetings, but then decided he didn't have a problem. He recently hit strike 3 when he came home from a Vodka tasting, drunk. I have been angry ever since. Being a single mother is my worst nightmare (although it seems that's what I am, already). After this last incident on April 8, he has started going to AA meetings (sometimes twice/week). At this point, I feel like I've given him all the chances I can give. I need some advice because I don't even really want to be around him... but our house is so small he's hard to avoid when we're both home. Any advice would be appreciated!
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momuvejr
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Reged: 04/29/06
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Have you tried to go to any alanon meetings? I used to attend GA meetings when I first found out my husband was drinking, unfortunately, they don't have meetings for the other half anymore (in my area). I am going to see a counselor, and then maybe go to an alanon meeting. But, I feel the same as you, I have been lied to over and over, I don't want to put any more effort and time into my marriage, but I also don't want to lose my home and hurt my children.
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KGrow
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Reged: 01/27/06
Posts: 3112
Loc: Colorado
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It sounds like he's getting help for his problem. No guarantee that he'll stick with it but he deserves a chance.
Now time for you to do something about your problem. You are unhappy at home. Go find yourself some daycare and get your career back in gear.
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unload
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Reged: 10/18/06
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Hi, you should attend Allanon meetings it will give you strength , also get involved in your church of choice , this will also keep you strength, treat him like special Ed :) till you can get a game plan going. My Alcholic husband decided to leave me after 20 years going to be with his kids in FL as he is retiring and I am 12 years younger. It is scary after 20 years and when you are middle aged.
Bengalcats anytime you want to chat you can e-mail
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