is it over
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Reged: 11/19/06
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So does anyone know of any happy military marriages? Me and my hubby were both active duty and all he did was cheat on me. I finally got sick of it, after 13 years. I mean good God you'd think he'd outgrow that shit.. but no.
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LostHerWay
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Reged: 07/07/06
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My parents are going on 29 years of being married. My dad did 20+ years in the air force. I guess it is possible. Unfortunately, my military marriage has failed. I tried to find hope with my parent's marriage, but it didn't work. I am still convinced there are happy military marriages out there.
Best of luck to you!!!!
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InLimbo
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Reged: 10/27/06
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My stbx has an aunt and uncle that have been married like 45 years. He was in the Air Force. Lifer. He is now retired. They do everything together. I saw her right before my husband and i split. She told me that in their entire marriage that only one time she joined a choir on her own. He missed her so much that three weeks later he joined. They still belong to that choir. I just thought that was so beautiful. You can see that they love each other very much.
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Love like you have never been hurt. Dance like nobody's watching and sing like nobody's listening.
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lovemysd
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Reged: 08/28/06
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Loc: California
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To: Is it over
I'm sorry you've had such a difficult time with your marriage. Not all military men are pigs (same as not all military women are sl*ts).
I've been married to my military man (US Marine) for over 11 years and we are doing great. I'm on this site because his ex is looney and I try to get support/opinions about the ongoing custody issues we face with my stepdaugters.
I think the key to success in any marriage is two-way communication. It's not always easy (deployments, field exercises, etc) but as long as we communicate about the things going on in our lives we are fine. He's my hero, my best friend and a great guy! He loves his kids and does everything he can to keep them (and me) safe and happy.
We have lots of friends who are dual-career military couples and they are thriving. Being military just adds an additional, sometimes more difficult, aspect to marriage but it certainly doesn't doom it to failure.
Best of luck to you. Thank you for your service to our fine country.
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adrenaline
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That is a great story I wish you all the luck.
Mike
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The problem isn't the game; it is that nobody knows the rules.
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imamrs2
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Reged: 08/18/06
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I have been married to my marine for nine years. I agree that communication is the key. I knew going into the marriage that my husband was going to make a career out of the military. It is a lot of give and take. My dh is my best friend. I am grateful because we have moved a lot and seen much. I actually enjoy being a military wife. Now, on the other hand, his ex (only married to the woman five years) hated the military life. She considers anyone serving in the military a killer and so beneath her. She has passed that opinion onto my stepson. I have heard him say more than once how he is ashamed of what his Dad does.
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is it over
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Reged: 11/19/06
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You know what.. I was being stupid and selfish when I wrote that post, and babyish. Of course there are good marriages in the military. Mine just wasn't one of them. I have alot of love for the military in general.. it gave me a great start in life and I wouldn't be where I am today without it.
Rock on all you women and men that are happily married to soliers/sailors/marines/airmen...
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Poetvisions
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Reged: 12/01/06
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You weren't being either "stupid" or "selfish", you were being human. It seems that others just told you what you already knew to be true:) I'm sorry your marriage didn't work out, but I bet it was the ride of a lifetime! And, you're here now meeting all of us;)
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lifeinva13
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Reged: 12/31/06
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I've had many, many friends divorce in the military. My husband has cheated on me several times, although denied it and pledged his love to me and my kids every time. He has been overseas now for six weeks, and I just received word from an airman that my husband is having and affair with this guy's wife while they are both serving in Afghanistan. This is ridiculous.
There have been many happy times, or when I felt happy . Clearly, my husband was waiting to get away so he could fulfill his desires. If anyone can relate, please write.
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viper
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Reged: 06/04/06
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OH,lifeinva13, I know your pain, I was/am in somewhat of the same place, married to a marine for 13 yrs to find out he was cheating during deployments while I stayed home and supported him and never strayed.My life was shattered.. but here is the thing about looking for support from the USMC...unless you can prove by photo or your husband admits to having sex with this woman no action will be taken. Here is the other thing ... they are sent on deployment with [censored] and condoms and with the line of.. "what happens on deployment stayes on deployment"
If you would like to talk more you cam pm me. I will be happy to help and support......
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