gigi
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Reged: 11/06/06
Posts: 5139
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My aunt & uncle were both military. When they met, he was a widower with several children an she was a nurse. They married and were together through retirement. He was a wonderful man and never considered cheating or acting like a jerk with regard to her. He treated his wife like a princess, and so did all his boys. She was and is their mother, and their children's grandmother.
They both believed the military demanded that they act with honor, and they continued that into their personal lives.
I guess some may feel the need to let loose in their personal lives, others are like my aunt & uncle. Neither my aunt nor my uncle were saints, but if my marriage and the last half of my life is anywhere near as wonderful as thiers was, I'll know I've lived a happy life!
Gigi
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cutishka
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Reged: 04/06/06
Posts: 19
Loc: Massachusetts
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no you weren't being stupid and selfish when you wrote that post. I feel the same way you do and had the same question!
I know military couples who have stayed married all their lives (my grandparents),I applaud them, but i know sooo many military couples who have divorced(such as myself), and it's usually because of cheating.
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snickers1818
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Reged: 01/25/07
Posts: 15
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Hello everyone, I am so glad that this forum exists! I am happily married to a soldier in the Army. I want to say first of all that I am sorry to the women/men on here whose marriages did not work out. I know a lot of women/men here where we are stationed that have had the same issues and I feel sorry for them. My husband was married to a woman who did not like the military life either so they divorced. It is sad because they have two little girls that deserve so much in this life but it would have been worse for them had their parents stayed married. I love my husband with all of my heart and hope the best for everyone on here!
Deployments are EXTREMELY hard to deal with but if the wife or husband really cares about the marriage, they will get through it just fine. We did and I gave birth to our daughter just 11 days after he left in 2004 to go to Iraq. It was a very tough year for me but we made it through so everyone has their obstacles in front of them but it can be overcome!
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LostHerWay
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Reged: 07/07/06
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I don't want to sound mean, but if you have such a great marriage snickers, how come you are looking through military divorce forums??
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snickers1818
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Reged: 01/25/07
Posts: 15
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I am on here because I wanted to ask other people that are in the military how they go about dealing with child support and custody being in the military. Is there another thread for the military?
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ArmyLoser
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Reged: 07/26/07
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I'm sure that there are some happy marriages in the military, but as soon as my husband went active duty, ours went downhill. He started drinking-heavily, (as do most of his friends in the military), secret phone calls on his military cell, long hours,etc, etc. Part of this is my stupidity for trusting him, but anyway, after 5 yrs of all this he finally left me. As things turn out he was cheating on me w/one of the female soldiers he works with. Does anyone know how the military feels about this? People who work together everyday, having a relationship? One that broke up a family. I am very bitter about the military after all the hurt that I have been through.
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ariesapie
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Reged: 07/31/07
Posts: 14
Loc: south jersey
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wow! i totally feel your pain!! that sounds exactly what happened to me... the military has the policy of unless you have concrete proof then it never happened. my ex was cheating on me with a female soldier who was cheating her soldier husband in Iraq! my ex cheated on me for years with hookers and made internet profiles on dating websites but i thought he would grow out of it, i made excuses for him all the time. but the old addage goes.. once a cheater always a cheater. i will never marry anyone in the military again
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ArmyLoser
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Reged: 07/26/07
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Just wondering, did you let his commanding officer know about what happened? Do you know if it even matters? I would love to get him & her in some kind of trouble, but if he's not working I lose also. How long were you married for? Children involved? Thanks for your reply. It feels better knowing I'm not the only person in this situation.
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again
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Reged: 08/12/07
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So I don't know much about this at all, I was just wondering what I can do...my husband went on deployment and big surprise cheated on me with one of the girls he works with i have pics of them together, one of them together on the ship they were deployed on. He keeps telling me if I divorce him I get nothing...is this true??
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