SarahS
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Reged: 01/15/06
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heres my situation ive been married for only two years husband just got back from Iraq last week after a year deployment. the day after he came home told me that he wanted a divorce. so he left me with hardly any money took both of the cars and i have to trace of where he may be. wondering since i dont work but go to school if i am entitled to any money to support me during the divorce process. im going to talk to his commanding officer in two days just wondering if anyone has any insight on what all i should do or what i am entitled to
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pbates2001
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Reged: 01/15/06
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Go to JAG--they have the information you need--my husband got back to Benning last week with 3rd Brigade- same story--except he is leaving the car--I have to pay for it according to him--we are making certain agreements--he wants me to sign a quitclaim to any of his retirement I may be entitled to--things such as that---so go to JAG---and chin up--you are in the same boat as many other spouses after deployments--the ARMY says they look out for the families--and from my viewpoint at the moment--it isnt happening.....
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toofargone
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Reged: 11/09/05
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Yea, same here. But the twist is it was my wife that went to Iraq. Married for 30 years this June and she has been in the Gaurd for 18 years. As far as I can tell I'm not intitled to anything. I took care of the household and 3 kids, supported her in her many deployments and training and as far as the Army is concerned I can just take a hike! No parades, metals or kiss my ass for the divorced spouse. LOL
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john1953
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Reged: 01/14/06
Posts: 73
Loc: Pennsylvania
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Man O man talk about stabing you in the heart.Guys can be so heartless.So whats your best guess?he met some one over in Iraq? Money wize i`am no lawyer but I can`t beleive you don`t deserve some kind of help.Just stay strong and know its nothing you did.good luck.
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pbates2001
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Reged: 01/15/06
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This has to be the hardest thing--I think the worst is that his unit--the guys in it--have been my family for the past seven years--most of them are taken our split as hard as we are--or as I am--it has shocked most of them--I am having to go from volunteering full time as their family readiness group leader for the past three years to trying to find a job--and facing these emotional days--sometimes it gets hard to breathe--but I am making it--I try to figure out why he has changed so much--I think it was the combat experience but I hate to lay it all on that you know--it helps to have this forum...I appreciate the feedback..
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4getnr
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Reged: 01/23/06
Posts: 10
Loc: Aransas Pass, Tx.
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http://fshtx.army.mil/sja/txdivinfo2.htm
I hope this will get you in the right direction!
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Finding out that the grass may be greener on the other side but that there is a turd in every yard.
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meanduty
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Reged: 02/12/06
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i'm trying to figure it out--my husband and i have been married for 20 years and have 3 beautiful girls. he screwed and is still screwing around with his tech over in afghanistan. he's even delayed his coming back so he can fly out with her. i'm kind of at a loss. i don't want my girls hurt. my parents were divorced when I was 12 and that was devastating to my brother and I. i'll take him to the cleaners if i can, and see if i can get an adultery charge too. i'm pretty upset by his lying--all this time i was worried he'd get shot or hurt, and he's been having a great time with his whore. sorry==i just put this together, read the letters, and realized myhusband wasn't the onlyt sneaky lying bastard
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kota1967
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Reged: 01/26/06
Posts: 1480
Loc: New England
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unfortunately there are a lot of men and women in the military and out that will cheat...I am sure it is hard to be away from your loved one but one should be able to go without the sex and be faithful to the marriage...sex is momentary...love is not....so you give into the urge for sex and you throw away the marriage...I just don't get it...and for him to tell you he is waiting to come home to you and your kids so he can fly how with her...put an adultery charge on his ass...serves him right...
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beeotchofusmcxwf
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Reged: 04/14/08
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WOW at least I know I am not in the same boat!! I am married to a marine, only 4 years. He up and decided that he wanted a divorce at the beginning of this year. I let him do all the filing...let him spare the cost. BUT before he did that he filed a DVI against ME!! The judge about laughed him out of court for that one...my issue is that being a military wife..I was not working taking care of four children (two step kids and two of my own) he is living in the house with his two children and me and mine are at the mercy of friends and neighbors. He filed the income tax return claiming all four children and me....has received all the money and is due to receive the monies from the rebates coming out. Leaving me with nothing. Jobs are scarce. I have been searching for months now. I have one interview coming up. The sucky thing is that I signed a prenup...so i dont know if I will be getting anything from him since we had no children common to this marriage. BUT I was the person who dealt with all the CRAP during his two deployments to Iraq and not to mention that he had cheated and spread some unmentionable things to me.....I AM SOOOO HOPING THAT THE JUDGE AWARDS ME EVERYTHING HE HAS RIGHT NOW. But I am not getting my hopes up. He has his command so snowballed right now it is not even funny! I hope they see him for who he really is!!!!!!!
BUT I hate to say dont get your hopes up because if there is no common children they are not required unless by court order to give you any monies.....that is what I am dealing with right now!!! BUT right your congressman they do not like congressional investigations.....In fact they HATE it....Just do not put down the military talk directly about the military man that are married to.
Keep me posted on what you find out and I will fill you in when I hear anything on this end/....
Edited by beeotchofusmcxwf (04/14/08 01:07 PM)
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beeotchofusmcxwf
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That is what I am waiting to see if I can do with mine. And with the doctors reports of the unmentionables he had brought home to me...I am so hoping I can do it!!!!!!!!
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