I was just informed by my husband on Friday that he isn't happy in our marriage and that he thinks we should divorce. I talked until I was blue in the face to get him to reconsider. I finally pretty much gave up. He is looking at it as we are better off as friends that married. He have talked about visition for the kids (almost 3 and almost 6 months). Our main goal is the well being of our children. My family is not happy. They are not happy with the way we are handling the divorce. I have no idea when papers will be filed. He said he is going to pay for all of it. He is a wonderful father to the kids. I have no doubt that he will not support them. It is a very friendly separation/divorce. I guess I am looking for support from third party impartial people. My family I don't think can do that. My sister is already unhappy about somethings I told her on how we are going to handle the separation. They pretty much want me to put the screws to him. I'm not like that and will not do it. Whatever support anyone can give me will be great. I am trying to be strong, but it is hard.
My stbx husband and I are as amicable as possible, but it still doesn't prevent the emotions from surfacing. It's good that he has a plan, my only suggestion is to get yourself to an attorney. It doesn't have to be nasty, it will end up painful....there is no way around it. The attorney will look after YOUR interest, and protect you from yourself. I know mine did, and at the time I was sure I didn't need it.
Your children are so young :( ((((hugs)))) Hang in there.
Hi, Please hang there. I know what you mean by "it is hard". My wife of 25 years informed me that she filed for divorce just after last xmas and moved out the begining of January. My kids are grown (college) but I still can not comprehend the hurt I am still feeling and I do not know when it is going to stop. My suggestions (1) see if he is willing to go to a therapist with you to save the marriage. However if there is a third party involved (an other women) it is difficult to get him to go, (2) get your own lawyer (3) look for a live support group around where you live. I suggest a wonderfull organization that I am using now called "DivorceCare". You can find out about them on the web at www.divorcecare.com The organization meets once a week and I am at the 5th week and, beleive me I can not see myself missing any one of them. Try them. Bottom line, there are people out there who have some understanding of the hurt you are going thru and you need all the support you can get. Also, a last advice: concentrate more on talking to female friend at this time. Let us know how you are doing and Good Luck.
I too was just informed from my wife that she wants a divorce. Well actually is divorcing me. I too turned blue and purple trying to get her to reconsider. But there is no going back. So I am waiting for the papers. We are talking this week while our daughter is with the in-laws and I believe hammer out visitation and $ and everything else. What I have read and what people say is yes get an attorney to protect yourself. I too want this to be an easy separation but there are times that we need the professionals to help us. Hang in there and remember you are not alone in this. Keep cool and love yourself
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