Divorce Support Forums: marital debt

I feel like I am justified in receiving some kind of compensation for what they have both put me through. He was married, yes but she knew he was. She is a habitual runaround and evidently he is too. People should not be able to keep hurting other people without some kind of responsibility for the hurt they have caused. I don't feel this is a Jerry Springer situation and I don't understand why you could say something like that. This has been and still is a very hard time for me. You can't turn love off like a light switch or at least, I can't. He is not trying to get alimony from me. He doesn't want to pay me alimony. He makes 2 1/2 times more than I make a year. The living standards we had have been affected also. He walked out on his 16 year old son and left him with me from 12/17/05 to 3/30/06 while he running around with his girlfriend. Could you leave your son with his stepmom at Christmas and at a time she was devastated too. You don't believe that they should be responsible for their actions at all? I have wasted 13 years on a man that turned out to be everything he said he wasn't and nothing he said he was. I am leaving this marriage with no retirement at all after he told me time after time and I quote "My money is our money." He had this planned when we sold our last house. He had no intention of staying with me after the new house was purchased. He asked me to leave and let him have the new house because he said I couldn't afford it. He even had a buyer for my Corvette. All he was concerned about was getting the equity out of our old house so he would not have to divide it with me. He paid off 4 of his credit cards with the proceeds and I did not have a clue that I was being manipulated and played for a fool. Do I know how long this affair went on? No, I don't. But you tell me, with their past history, do you think they had any morals about running around? I don't think so. What were they saving? I don't want him back, trust me. I have enough respect for myself than that but after repeated patterns, people should realize they can't go around hurting people and destroying lives at the drop of a hat and for their own selfish needs. Some people take marriage as a commitment not as a layover until the next prospect comes along. She did not steal my husband. They have worked together for 8 years. He just got his turn. Remember, he was the fifth guy she has been with at work. Seven and 1/2 years with another married man while she was married, should tell you something about her. How do I know that? The guy's wife has told me about it. She found out about their affair but her husband did not walk out on her. My husband talked about this girl like she was a dog and told me the guys she had been with at work. Other people that work there have also told me about her. She is the talk of the plant. I thought my husband had more respect for himself that this too. You think you know someone and you really don't. So they deserve each other but I deserve something too. You can't make someone love you but you can show him or her that what they have done to someone has its consequences. Could I win or lose? Will the lawsuit cost them their jobs? Since both of them are denying their companionship at work, the lawsuit may be interesting. Of course, if this happens, there goes my alimony. But they will lose alot too. I'll survive somehow. The house will have to be sold but I already know that. I have an attorney's opinion that handles this type of lawsuits and she feels confident on the emotional distress I have suffered. I'm sorry if I sound bitter, but I am still very hurt and devastated. My husband and the girlfriend have been on 3 trips in the last month on his motorcycle. So this is hard to accept too. There has been no papers signed at all with the attorneys. We had 1 mediation and that was when his attorney found out about the girlfriend so nothing has been agreed on or signed. Do you understand now why I feel this way?

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Is there any room for good girls anymore?