Divorce Support Forums: Child Support and My Wife's Privacy! Help

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A few years back my ex (girlfriend) and I split up two years after our son was born. Being Mr. Nice guy I agreed to pay her 500/month for support off the books. (no court) The first few months were substanially more that I payed...being my first child, I was worried he wasn't getting what he needed. So when she asked for money...I gave it to her. Reading in these forums I realize How Huge a mistake being Mr. Nice Guy is. However. When I left I lived in my truck for two months as I had no extra money for finding a place to live. When I had my son we went and spent the night at my parents house. However...things started looking up. I found a place..and things were good for a while. I got married to a wonderfull woman who had a daughter from a prev. relationship and she is a perfect little step-daughter her and my son get along perfectly. she's 8 and he's 6. After My marriage my ex and I had a discussion about the child support amount and we agreed it be lowered to 350/month. this was fine for several months then my ex tells me that she wanted to go before a majestrate and just make things legal..no lawyers etc etc. BAM!!! a week before the court date I get a letter from her ..yup you guessed it...laywer. We are going to garnish your wages, change visitations etc etc etc. So now on my income at the time my wife was not working. I have no money for a laywer I have to borrow 2500 from my in-laws. We go to court everything goes terrible and my child support goes to 500/month. so my pay is garnished and all is going as my EX has planned. Then due to an accident last summer I was terminated from my employment as I was going to be out too long according to the family medical leave act. called labor board...old employer is "AT WILL Employment", nothing I could do. So I file as instructed to do so by the Family (MOMMY) court here in vermont to have the child support modified based on no INCOME from ME. Then the story gets really bad from here. Since this filling of the modification All my accounts Checking/Utility's Rent Work/ medical..etc etc have been subpenoed. The problem with this is that it's my Wife's informations as well. It is not her obligation to pay my child support. So therefore I have had my name removed from all our accounts and I am now being accused of having other accounts to hide income?? I dont believe it I really don't. I have documentation from Department of Employment and training that I can not recieve unemployment benefits due to my inability to seek employment do to my injuries, wich are documented with x-ray's and MRI's by my doctors and surgeon's. I have been turned down for SSI benefits as well. Typing this has even been done at an extremely slow pace due to the pain I am having in both shoulders. I and my wife are recieving food stamps to help put food on the table and she is trying to get more hours at work but she is only part time and they wont let her work over a certain amount of hours due to bieng part time. How do I possibly prove any further to My EX and Her Laywer that I do not have any other income...they allready have everything from me. all documentation and are insisting that I am making money??? My lawyer currently is working for me for free due to my financial situation...however..I feel enough is not being done, but I cannot afford a new layer. It's getting worse everyday. She (my EX) has even told my son that dad is not paying child support...he's only six years old for heaven's sake. I have never mentioned any ill words about his mom to him or even let him be within ear shot of any conversations about his mother and I. I am at my wits end. This is a very short version of my story and I can fill in more details if needed for any advice that someone may have to offer. I'm desperate . Thanks for taking the time to read my post.
Broke and in despair.

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