Unlike child support, spousal support is often very difficult (if not impossible) to modify after the divorce is final, so getting it right the first time is a must!
When two people have a past like a marriage and children, there is ALWAYS bagage! I would have a very difficult time getting involved with anyone with a divorce and children behind them...YES even though I am and do! I just feel you never have that piece of them that was originally given to the first spouse...sorry, I know I will get some slack for that comment, but it's just my opinion.
Good Luck
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