Divorce Support Forums: Trying to move on....

Like so many that post here, I have resentment for my SD. I have tried to let it go but then something else happens. To top off the ongoing saga, she was not at the hospital when my son was born (her brother). It did not matter that we had someone to pick her up to come to the hospital or that this was truly a miracle baby (2 months early and struggling to live) or that my kidneys were shutting down. She never came and never called. When my DH asked her to come, she said that she had basketball camp and couldn't miss a half day. A year later, she has only come twice. Didn't even come at Christmas....too busy. Now, a year later, she didn't come for Father's Day but she came for Mother's Day. Why? Because she knew that this was my first Mother's Day and wanted it to be all about her since she had not been in months. (Of course DH was going to be at her beck and call.)Didn't come for her brother's first birthday because she was not missing her horse riding lessons. My husband has tried to talk to her but it has not worked for several years now. EX has issues and will always encourage daughter to not like me or her father even though she says otherwise.

I feel sorry for SD. Her cousins are going to know her brother better than she does. As someone posted, if it is not about her, then she wants no part of it. I know part of it is her age (14) but she has always been like this. I thank God every day that even though my parents did not get along, they worked together to teach me right from wrong and that life was not all about me.

She talks to him like a dog and he just wants to spend time with her but he is the absolute last thing on her mind. Sometimes, I don't think she will change. Her mother has not and she is almost 40.....her mother did the same thing to her father and now EX has not spoken to her father in over 20 something years. She is just teaching SD how to be like her.

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