I'm sure that there are some happy marriages in the military, but as soon as my husband went active duty, ours went downhill. He started drinking-heavily, (as do most of his friends in the military), secret phone calls on his military cell, long hours,etc, etc. Part of this is my stupidity for trusting him, but anyway, after 5 yrs of all this he finally left me. As things turn out he was cheating on me w/one of the female soldiers he works with. Does anyone know how the military feels about this? People who work together everyday, having a relationship? One that broke up a family. I am very bitter about the military after all the hurt that I have been through.