wow! i totally feel your pain!! that sounds exactly what happened to me... the military has the policy of unless you have concrete proof then it never happened. my ex was cheating on me with a female soldier who was cheating her soldier husband in Iraq! my ex cheated on me for years with hookers and made internet profiles on dating websites but i thought he would grow out of it, i made excuses for him all the time. but the old addage goes.. once a cheater always a cheater. i will never marry anyone in the military again