=========================================================== ....i have a restraining order against hm as he made4 some crazy threats and remarks a few weeks ago...now he is telling me he loves me and if he stopped se4eing the girlfriend would i take him back....i am still madly n love with him but i know i shouldnt b....im lost and any advise would help ===========================================================
Heidi,
Welcome and I hope you enjoy your membership. Please don't believe the advice of some bitter man-haters here. Remember, "Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me". Your husband is a man and, despite the beliefs and assertions of feminists, there are more differences between the sexes than the mere fact that "Women have periods and men don't".
You will eventually have to decide whether you want a man or a eunuch as well as whether you want to live a normal life for a woman or, eventually, to become an "old maid". As the last alternative you could be a lesbian. These are your choices in life, and neither male nature nor human nature is going to change, notwithstanding the good-sounding rhetoric to the contrary of neither feminists nor demagogic politicians!