i'm trying to figure it out--my husband and i have been married for 20 years and have 3 beautiful girls. he screwed and is still screwing around with his tech over in afghanistan. he's even delayed his coming back so he can fly out with her. i'm kind of at a loss. i don't want my girls hurt. my parents were divorced when I was 12 and that was devastating to my brother and I. i'll take him to the cleaners if i can, and see if i can get an adultery charge too. i'm pretty upset by his lying--all this time i was worried he'd get shot or hurt, and he's been having a great time with his whore. sorry==i just put this together, read the letters, and realized myhusband wasn't the onlyt sneaky lying bastard