Just so I understand what you are saying, That I need to file for Divorce/Legal Separation? I have filed for a Legal Separation in our state, and I have to appear sept 4 "Special Appearance" at the state she went to, to contest the TPO and the Divorce, and then we have an initial status conference here in CO on Sept 24 from when I filed for our Legal Separation. Do I also need to ask the state to take jurisdiction, or have I done that by filing for Legal Separation? I am just really freaked out by this whole thing, and I just want to make sure I am not leaving anything to chance.