I also wanted to mention that he moved his 90+ mother in (for the 2nd time) who suffers from alz. & dementia. He is an only child and his kids, her family AND his ex couldn't deal with her & he promised her that he would never put her in "a home", so it's back to me she comes! She cannot stand me and I must admit the feeling is mutual (it was this way before the illness) and not much has changed other than she "forgets" she doesn't like me and I get to go thru that everyday as well. I am nothing but caring and attentive to her, but should I really be expected to do this without compensation? I can't even actively look for employment because she cannot be left alone. Thanks for your help.