Divorce Support Forums: Jean Hariman Proparenting Services Minnesota

I have been informed by the above custody evaluator that she has been reading my DivorceSupport.com blogs to determine my case. She has been reading my personal emails that were obtained illegally by my stbx to determine my case. And she is taking the word of my stbx on every issue despite when my stbx admittedly lies to her and hands her the evidence of such lies directly to her.

This evaluator has claimed in her official report to the court that I have posted "unfounded, untrue and slanderous messages on the internet" about her and her company.

In actuality, I posted the questions that I has asked her in numerous emails which she chose not to answer. I gave my opinion as to what I believed her answers were and stated that it was my opinion, but never the less, she has chosen to make these false claims against me.

In her report here are a list of her inaccuracies, which is a politically correct term for her just being wrong, or drawing a conclusion without checking her facts with anyone except the person making the claims, notably my stbx.

When asked to comment on her report, she refused to discuss any issues of rationale nor would she make any changes to any obvious errors. Consequently, her errors appear to favor my stbx.

Here is a list of her errors and incorrect statements. You tell me if you think they need correction in the official record:

She says I left my wife in May, I left my wife actually in March.
She doesn't mention that my stbx has people I would not want present during child exchanges, although she mentions that I have.
She cites all of the documents used to determine the case, except for the private emails that my wife obtained illegally from me in her report. She does however mention that I excessively use email.
She cites a newspaper article to determine how I lost my job, but doesn't not ask me about it.
My initial request for parenting time was every other weekend Fri-Sun, however now she states after the evaluation that she would never have granted me that because it is against her methodology.
She cites that my stbx takes care of all medical appointments for my daughter, but fails to mention that my stbx fails lets me know she is going to the doctor.
She claims that my daughter needs to spend more time with her paternal grandfather who lives 50 miles away, but has shortened my parenting time by two hours. She is considering a change to this.
She says my daughter has no friends at my home, when in fact she has become quite fond of the neighbor girl.
She says that my homelife is unstable because my landlord let the house I am in foreclose, but fails to mention that my stbx will soon have to move out of the house that neither of us could afford when our incomes were combined. She also fails to mention that I moved originally because my stbx lawyer said my apartment was too small for my daughter to live with me there even though my stbx was adamant that I get a small apartment to save expenses.
She says I was fired from my job for an ethics violation, which is not the case, but again does not check with me.
She fails to mention that my stbx asked me to impregnate her after I left her so she could have a chance at more children.
She says I don't want kids or be married again but that is not true and in fact I am in a monogmous relationship with a woman I have known for over a year and a half.
She mentions in her report that I am overweight, but fails to mention that my stbx is also overweight.
She clearly details my stbx's concerns about me, but only mentions my concerns of child alienation in passing and then elludes to this being just a retaliation of me although my daughter is coming up to me often and saying "mommy don't like you daddy". When I raised my concerns to the evaluator, she initially refused to hear them saying I told her this months ago, but then when she does realize they are credible she goes to my stbx and lets her comment directly on my concerns in her final report. No where in the report am I allowed to comment or even addressed directly about any concerns my stbx has for me much less giving me the chance to respond to them.
She cites that I have made over 1000 emails, and 600 text messages, but doesn't illustrate my stbx same behavior.
Although my stbx sexual/psychiatric evaluation resulted in her needing "LONG TERM PSYCHOANALYSIS, and possible MEDICATION" to correct her obsessive compulsive and dependancy and depression issues, aparently there is no cause for alarm to raising my child and awards her 93% of the time with my daughter a week!
She claims I have excessive internet usage of adult, and dating sites and that it happens during my work day, but she fails to mention that my wife printed out copies of every site I visited even on days that I wasn't there and when she did, she recorded the time and date of that printing. The majority were printed during the day, when she was with my daughter and in charge of other daycare children. Somehow it is OK for my stbx to view and print out these sites with children present but I can't look at them when my daughter ISN'T around!
My sexual/psychological evaluation resulted in a NORMAL RANGE, but yet she went to great detail to point out those elements within that NORMAL RANGE that were of concern. However, despite the fact that I viewed websites, was engaged in dating cites, and sent emails to other human beings and text messages, there is no proof that any sexual activity took place with any of the recipients, and in fact no sexual activity did take place so I am being judged on what I viewed not on what I did.
It is not mentioned anywhere in her report that my stbx assaulted me physically and verbally on many occassions during child exchange and other times, nor is it mentioned that I had to call the police to prevent my wife from assaulting me when I was recoverning from a surgery that day.
She fails to mention that my stbx is an extreme disiplinarian in her daycare. She shouts loudly at the children and often punishes all of them because she was not in the room when one of them misbehaved.
She says I do not attend church but I have attened church periodically.
She mentions that my stbx had difficulty conceiving but fails to mention that I did too. She also fails to mention that I had to administer blood thinners by injection into my stbx despite my fear of needles because my stbx was afraid to do it.
She says that my stbx never withheld parenting time from me but in fact she refused to let me see my daughter for 2 weeks until my lawyer threatened a court order.
Although the sexual/psychiatric evaluator said that "nothing in my report should restrict your parenting time" the evaluator changed her initial report drastically by reducing my time by one day and restricting my over night parenting time.
The sexual/psychiatric evaluator also told me that his testing could not positively identify if I ever had an issue, if I have one, or if I would ever have one and that further testing would be necessary to determine this. Then of course he asked if I would be interested in coming to him for this testing.
She fails to interview the 2 marriage councelors we saw during our marriage that would corraborate any of my claims that my stbx was controlling, oppressive, and manipulative and that she spent 11 years suffocating me with her dominance.
She granted my stbx request to have every Sunday and every Easter for religious reasons but failed to consult me before granting that wish.
She requires me to attend therapy in order to have overnight visitation with my child, but requires my stbx to have therapy and possibly medication but yet is unconcerned with my daughter's care.

The bottom line is that the parenting evaluator has interviewed me once, and observed me in my home with my daughter once. She has accepted all the claims of concern my stbx has made without question, but has all but dismissed my concerns as retaliation. She all but says I am lying but when my stbx hands her proof that she is lying, she fails to act on it or even recognize it. She has allowed my stbx to communicate with her freely but has been resistant to any of my communications and to this day refuses to answer many of my questions. She said her procedure was to interview me, then my stbx, and if my stbx had concerns she would follow up with me. There was never any follow up and she has taken the word of my stbx over mine in ever instance. She admitted to granting my stbx every Sunday and every Easter, based on the say so of my stbx saying that I was agreeable to that even though it wasn't true and she never checked with me. She appears not to understand technology, and is amazed that someone could send 600 emails, even though in business I receive nearly 150 emails daily and I am expected to answer them all. She appears to have no concept that text messaging works like a conversation and the number of text messages doesn't indicate a compulsion, only a conversation. And she appears to overlook the fact that I have commited no crime yet my stbx has committed several crimes to make her case.

Good guys not only finish last, but they have their children taken away from them.

If you are choosing a parenting evaluator, let me offer a suggestion. If you are a man, don't pick Jean Hariman of Proparenting Services in Minnesota.

This is my opinion. There are no lies to my knowledge in the above statement. And all facts are verifyable.

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