Divorce Support Forums: Abusive husband, how do I get out of this?

I had my X arrested also..I was bleeding and looked like death warmed over..he was outside sitting on the picnic table eating an orange.as calm as could be..when the cops came...order of protection also...for the next year and a half..he has not entered this house..the one thing he knows is one more arrest.prison for him...

But that left me with being in charge of everything..nothing new but now all repairs and everything were up to me...I just raise myself from the bottom he had me in and became a very capable women..never once did I call him...from now on it is my life..he did everything possible like stopping all bills from coming to the house...they don't become better after all this..they just become the real person that they are...and really the least amount of contact with them..the better you heal..because you can see them so clearly..and it isn't good..but then nothing new is it??

He hid money in the house..I seached till I found it..it paid for attorney fees..and my divorce attorney filed a motion that he had to pay all house bills.. insurance..taxes...by the way..he wanted the house..but didn't want me in it..to bad..he moved in with his mother..(mooched off her)...I got the evaluation for the house...I basically took over...and I called the shots..I filed against him that could be bad because then they try to stall all the time ...there are so may trade offs..it is hard to say which is better...but for me..taking charge gave me more say...I felt safer alone..living with him was always a wild ride anyway..so know I have to make other plans to move...naturally he is causing a uproar..but if it continues..it becomes harrassment..he was arrest for abuse...so everything does bite them in the end..so many games..you just have to develope a hard shell ..if they don't get a reaction from you...it won't make them happy...I refused to cry in front of him over what he did to me..he actually likes it..makes him feel good...some people just are such rotten eggs..I smile..that is something he hates..

Edited by sunshine (09/16/07 01:19 PM)

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