Divorce Support Forums: COLLEGE, when does this end?

Can you believe 1/3 i more money then he will be contributing to our family then if we were staying here and he paid for college?
The turmoil is what has us thinking about this so hard.

Right now I could not care less about this kid. I did till about a ago when everything changed.
This kid came to my house and started verbally abusing my kids especially my oldest. Started problem w/my husband and I all over a cell we decided to take away bc of misuse.
It was 1030pm one night and my oldest was pulled out of bed screaming etc. Since then things hve been totally different. We did not have contact for about 11months. I have yet to get an apology much less my husband or children. However when it was the night before graduation and they needed something we did get a phone call and I was out till 10pm trying to tie everything together!!!!
LEt me also stress that this kid has such hate for our oldest, will yell and completely show favoritism toward the other kids.
Why bc oldest ruined chances of being an only child (so said) After we had kids everyone started having kids.
This child called once a few months ago to ask our child to the movies reluctant we said ok, we are still waiting. Never came, called etc. It was a way of hurtin our child, luckily we never told ours.

Our child looked at the calander on the kids bday. Said today is so bday. I said yes, do we have to call? I said well do u want to? Our child said no, not really. We call for everyones bday.

One last thing. We always go out for our kids bday. This kid found out and said well I want to go (ALWAYS LOOKING FOR A FREE NICE MEAL) we said ok, we had reservations. One hour later kid shows up, mind you we got a phone call at 10minutes late 30 minutes late saying I almost there. Then we needed to make a stop bc forgot something. We missed our reservation!!!!!!!!!! HAd to go to a burger joint and OUR kids fell asleep at the table. Our kids love it when the server comes singing happy bday never got that!!! o, by the way this was after we had to origionally change our reservation to fit time schedule.
Fair? Should I care after the way my family has been treated? Should I give up to hand over?
I know I sound like the wicked step parent, but I know I have given up more then teh biological parents especially mom. I have been made to feel horrible and have things blown up in my face. Even my mother-in-law has said I thank you since no one else has for being so good to the child.
My kindness has to stop, at some point. It might be here!!!

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