Divorce Support Forums: Father is bad mouthing me in front of child

After 2 1/2 years of trying to get my divorce finalized it will all be over on Tuesday. About 3 weeks ago I moved an hour away from my daughter's father so that I could go to school. My daughter and I moved in with my boyfriend whom I have been seeing for a little over a year. My ex hasn't made an issue of it and did not bring it up in the divorce. However, last weekend when my 4 year old came home from his house she immediately said that her dad told her not to like Tony (my boyfriend, whom she has always gotten along so well with)and that she didn't like living with me. Her exact words were: "Daddy says I don't like Tony and he is yucky..... Daddy says I don't like living here with you.......Your stupid and when I go to my daddy's house I'm not coming back." SHe has never EVER said anything like that to me. It breaks my heart. I know this is all very wierd for her and it will take some time for her to really get adjusted. But everything was fine the week before. After she was home, it took a good 3 days to get her back to her normal happy self again. She also started saying very negative things like "this is stupid..." or "I HATE this stupid park...." These are words I have always not allowed because of their strong negativity. Now she frowns all the time and says that she doesn't want me and that daddy says she should live with him. I would never say anything bad about him to her because I know how much she adores her father. But what can I do to get my baby back? I miss the child she used to be? Am I doing something wrong? I am much stricter than her father and I don't let her do, eat or say whatever she wants. I don't spoil her with stuff or allow her to talk back to me. I try to be the positive, yet firm and structured parent that I think she needs, but it seems to be backfiring on me because I get all the hate HE induces. Please, I need some kind of advice. Should I get her into counseling? SHould I let her grow out of it? What do I do?!!!

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