Divorce Support Forums: Separated but living together?

Hello,
This is my first post here and I'm not sure if I'm in the right forum, but I thought I would try it and see.

My husband and I, married for almost 15 years and with a 9 year old daughter, have decided to separate. Is there anyone here that lives with their soon to be ex? We are trying that and are both wondering if this could really work out.

Financially, neither one of us can go out on our own yet, plus neither of us could afford our current home on our own. There hasn't been any abuse and for the most part, we are very respectful of one another. I have made our spare room into my room with my husband keeping the room we used to share together. We came up with our own schedule -- who takes what night to be responsible for our daughter, which leaves the other parent the opportunity to go to a local divorce recovery meeting, church or just to get out with other family members, etc.

I am self-employed and would have a hard time affording medical insurance on my own - I am currently carried on his policy. My husband and I agree that if we live separately, our daughter needs to be with me. His first marriage ended in a bitter divorce and he lost valuable time with his children. He wants to continue to be involved in the day-to-day activities of our daughter and living together will allow that to continue.

We are in the process of splitting up our bills and getting our finances separated from each other too.

So... does anyone have any experience with this? Can this be done? Is this only a short term solution? Any advice or information anyone has would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you

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