Divorce Support Forums: Rocky marriage and husband takes job in CA

We've been married only 3 years and it's been rocky from the beginning. We just cannot communicate and I am very lonely. I've learned through counseling that he is verbally and emotionally abusive. Trying to talk gets us nowhere, and when there IS improvement, it doesn't last. We have a 2 year son who I have stayed home with him from the beginning. My husband lost his job here and has found one in California. I've begged him to continue looking for something closer where the money will go further (we can afford for him to keep looking), but he really wants this job. I am on the fence, hoping for the best, but my gut telling me that I cannot move there. I feel he is choosing the job over us because we may divorce (finally) over this, but he thinks he's doing the right thing (supporting the family). He said that he could have our son in the summer and holidays (he would be in daycare most of the time I think) but I cannot even imagine him being away even overnight, much less accross the country. I am thinking the court would grant me full custody (all his family and friends are here and I've been home with him since he was born). Now I am scrambling to find a place to live, a job, daycare and what my rights are. I have an appt with an attorney. Does anyone have any good advice or similar situation to shed some light on all this confusion?

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