am i intitled to split our assets regardless of my name not being on the mortgage or credit cards ===========================================================
Why should you be "entitled" to ANYTHING if your name is not on any "title" to the item in question? Isn't the purpose of titles. in the first place, to prevent any false claims or confusion in this regard?
I suggest you carefuly examine any alleged titles to the items in question for your name. If I were you, and could not find it thereon, I would forget about trying to finesse any legalized theft and GO TO WORK for living!