Dear Algoma, I too am new to this forum, and am feeling much the same. Your post was particularly poignant, because my wife and I spent three days in Algoma last week, just to talk things out (We live by West Bend). We stayed in the Britannia B&B just south of Algoma, and it was a peaceful, friendly and neutral place to talk. You live in such a beautiful area. Anyway, I don't really know what to say, except that you're not alone. Sometimes I think that when one person suffers, we all suffer. Let's just work on getting our heads straight and get past the point where we're going through all the stages of grieving every 10 minutes. I think we can help ourselves by getting out as much as possible and trying to help other people. That's so easy to say, yet so hard to do at this point. But we have to! Best hopes to you.