Thanks for the reply. He is a really scary guy, but since he "behaves" himself with our child (for the most part), we have tried to just not rock the boat so our child could spend time with him when x allows it. His behavior has just within the last 18 months (approx) gone way over the edge. I did file a report w police when he left a voicemail threatening harm. The most recent was when trying to take child over for visit and my husband was with us, so safety was assumed. He told my husband he would kill him over disagreeing about child discipline issues that ocurred 7 years ago! He is getting worse and we know that dragging him through court will harm our child emotionally. Please tell me how you know what you know about CS? I don't mean anything rude by that question, I just am trying to have all ducks in a row prior to whatever action we may be forced to take. I don't want to get slammed in court because my husband has a much higher income than the x. (Although, as I said before, the x's earning ability is still intact, he seems to have chosen to live off disability). Thank you for "listening".