Divorce Support Forums: General lawyer advice question

"If you're the correct guy, (I coudl be remembering someone else) I remember messaging with you during her last hospitalization & I recommended finding a way to talk to the hospital social workers to make her find a new place to stay once she got out of the hospital, which would have been the easiest way to get this moving... it's tough to force someone out (and you do not want to be the one to have to get out since it's your house)... and you need to brign this up to a lawyer & ask what htey think are your chances of getting temporary orders to force her out. You may have to time filing of divorce with her next hospitalization so that the move "out" is really more like a "release to a different home". "

Yeah, that was me. And while that was something I thought about, at the time I was very concerned with starting something so abruptly (not letting her come back home and beginning divorce processes) without having spoken to a lawyer at all about my chances for custody, retaining my home, or the prospects of having to pay alimony. I would have been tipping my hand as to what my motives were before I even had all my cards together. She was due to come home quickly after that, and with her doc proclaiming her to be in such good shape coming out, I was afraid my position would not look too good at that particular time. I have been very busy and had not been able to get a lawyer appt arranged since the beginning of school, but this recent destabilization of hers has lit a fire under me that I need to try and do something so that I'm ready should another hospitalization occur. I did not expect her to start falling apart again so soon after an inpatient stay. It took her awhile after the last one.

With regards to her talks to her psych doctor, and her claims to me that she was having nightmares and disturbing thoughts, if in the past or in the future she were to not only say she was having thoughts of suicide, but also of killing me or the children, does the doc have to let me know that kind of topic came out? I would think that would weigh heavily with a lot of things along the lines of divorce reasons and child custody. She has not disclosed to me what her "disturbing thoughts" were. I know in the past she told me she would have dreams of killing her mother.

thanks for the replies - I really hate trying to sort all this stuff out.

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