well, i'm not a guy, but my stbx husband cheated on me and now we are divorcing and it is a rough road. this forum helped me get through the darkest days. i would advise you to post this under "life after divorce". that gets the most traffic and there are some great people with lots of great advice.
sorry to find you here, but welcome.
kat
-------------------- What you reap is what you sow and so it goes...