Divorce Support Forums: Please read, I just need someone to talk to.

Wow, I really appreciate all of you who have taken the time to read my story and offer advice. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I don’t take offense from anything anyone has posted in regards to my situation. However, I do want to clarify a few things:

I do not look down on my husband (or think that I am better than him) because I have a college education and he doesn’t. There are a lot of successful people in this world who don’t have a college degree; subsequently there are people who have a degree who aren’t successful. He is a smart man; he just never had the desire to apply his smarts academically. When we met I was going to college, and I only finished my business degree last year. I juggled working full time, raising 2 kids and going to school at the same time. It wasn’t easy.

I don’t have the desire to be rich. I just want what most people want: to own a house, save and plan for retirement, go on a vacation once a year, and be able to raise (not spoil) my children. I don’t dream of a big house and fancy cars. Like Healing Heart posted (and thank you for being so intuitive, your post means a lot to me) I knew when I met him that he had no education, no assets and a pile of debt. I was in love, had met my soul mate and so none of that really mattered. We were sitting in the glow of a new and exciting relationship it seemed like no obstacle is too great to overcome. And I thought that we were in it together, forever.

What I did expect him to do is to grow as a person. I assume that as people age they become more mature and begin to think about retirement, paying of debt, etc. This is where he let me down. In the beginning of our relationship I understood that we were building a life together and that takes time. But over the years he “checkout out emotionally” and now I have too.

I don’t know if he can meet my expectations. I don’t think my expectations are very high or out of the ordinary. I should add that he was somewhat reluctant to get remarried. I always knew that I wanted to marry him, and I don’t want to say that I forced him to marry me, but he didn’t propose the traditional way, we just decided to get married. We had a beautiful (but not too extravagant) wedding. Looking back, I know he wasn’t ready. He just didn’t have the balls to say anything.

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