Divorce Support Forums: Wife dropped bomb -- what to do?

Hi everyone, Below is my story. I'm hoping someone can give me some info or advice that'll help me make a decision on what to do next.

Married 5 years. Been in committed relationship for more than 10 years. We're best friends, love eachother, affectionate, but not very intimate. Have known the lack of intimacy is a problem, I tried to get it addressed in counseling. Never went anywhere. I always thought we would work on it again some time and really make an effort to make it better before we took any drastic steps.

Well, a few days ago my wife said she's not happy with her life, wants to move out of the Northwest, said she "developed some strong feelings" for a guy she met on a biz trip, she loves me but she's not "in love" with me anymore and she wants to move out. She swears that although she dated the guy, she didn't sleep with him and she is not going to pursue a relationship with him.

So, I don't know whether to fight to keep the marriage or just move on. If my wife's no longer in love with me and we'd just be delaying the inevitable, than why bother? I'd rather just get through the pain and move on quickly. She wants to move in with a friend half way accross the country and think about it. I don't want to wait in limbo with knots in my stomach. Am I wrong?

Also, what are the legal repurcussions? She's been the primary bread-winner for the past 2 years -- I was for the first 8 (3 married). Am I going to get screwed now? I've given up my 6-figure career to pursue part-time non-profit and volunteer work. We agreed on that path.

I've asked her to find an apartment but they're really expensive. Should I push that? I need the house to provide stability for my son (from a previous marriage). Soooo confused. Any advice or related personal experiences you want to share would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

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